Why are people so nasty?

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A member of the public recently made a really spiteful and untrue allegation about my conduct. If my manager believed it, my career goals would have been irreparably damaged. Luckily today we've had a meeting about it and she said she doesn't. But I feel so shaken up and angry about it.

Why are people so nasty for no reason? I don't understand. What do they gain?

I think some people enjoy hurting others or making trouble.

Poor you. That is horrific. Like other PPs have said, there is no rhyme or reason. But remember there are an awful lot of truly good people out there too. Unfortunately this type of personal attack is harshly brutal.
All the v best

I was just posting to say I'm with you on this op some people are so petty and nasty

But I just read @TinklyLittleLaugh post, I did a similar job, at the time I was working 7 days as week mon-fri office job sat and sun cash office in a store, my manager at store was amazing and worried about me being tired etc always looked after me, I did safe counts every week it was always spot on and one week it was down (it was done daily by others) but this certain part was only touched by me once a week, she looked concerned that it was missing but obviously realised it wasn't me and signed the discrepancy off, it wasn't till a year after I left a woman who worked there years was sacked for stealing, the same woman who did the majority of the weeks safe counts

Why am I not surprised it's the nhs where it happened. We are open to verbal and physical attacks, false and spurious allegations, we know we have to make allowances but some people are just spiteful and trouble makers. It's demoralizing, upsetting, affects our well being and makes us question ourselves. I am sure it's the same in all public sector jobs, all you can hope for is a quick and fair investigation but sadly that's not always the case. The best thing you can do is protect yourself, work in pairs and know you are a good person.

I once told a small child to be careful Literally that was all, and not shouted, after he has rammed a chair into a glass window hard enough to mark it. I was concerned the glass would break and he would be hurt. His mother went ballistic that anyone should speak to her pfb and went and reported me to my boss who was working at another site. Luckily for me she waited for a few days and purely coincidentally another woman present at the time was also at the other site and put both boss and bolshy woman straight as to what had really happened. He was quite shocked when he saw how a 2 year old had managed to mark the window.

But yes, why the need for such nastiness? All she had to do was divert his behaviour.. she didn't even need to apologise.

Am wondering what the deleted comment said?

Yes HoleyCoMoley I work in the public sector and it's getting worse . Services are getting cut back all the time and we are all doing are best. I don't know anyone who isn't.

Sorry to hear everyone else's stories. I've never faced anything like this at work. Agree it's so hard as you obviously can't say anything (we have some mutual acquaintances, which is presumably why the allegation occurred). And when you face the prospect of seeing them again in a professional context. And when you're worried that your manager will likely have to contact them again to inform them of the outcomes of the meeting, so I don't truly believe this is all finished.

There are a lot of insincere and spiteful people out there. Nasty bastards are unfortunately ten a penny.

Thankfully all is ok op so try and move on as best you can

Little people OP. Little spiteful people who have nothing else in their lives than to stir trouble and be hateful to others. It's their problem not yours. I've had a few experiences of people like this myself in adult life and it's always taken me by surprise - I like to think that most people are fundamentally nice and decent but unfortunately that really isn't the case. Sometimes I think the nicer you are the more vulnerable you are to a certain type of person sadly.
The best thing you can do is to rise above it and not give it any headspace. Don't give them what they want - pity them instead. Something is missing from their own life to make them act like this. You can be sure that you won't be the first or the last person to be on the receiving end of their spite.

Oh and I work for the NHS too! Seems it's a common problem.

I was in hospital last year over night. A woman in the same bay as me was talking on her mobile phone constantly. At about 2.00am a nurse put her head in and noticed. She very quietly and politely asked the woman to stop talking on her phone as it wasn't fair on the rest of us in the bay. The woman went ballistic at the nurse, shouting at her and being abusive.

The next day I witnessed the CF making an official complaint against the nurse stating that the nurse shouted at her, was intimidating, was abusive to her... I couldn't believe my ears! I followed the sister down the ward and told her what actually happened. I couldn't believe the CF made up such lies!

To quote Alfred from Batman: Some men just want to watch the world burn.

There are some people who thrive on creating chaos. It’s horrible. I’m a frontline NHS worker too and it’s horrible to watch. Even worse when it’s your colleagues....

Blue, that is a typical example, that poor nurse will have to be taken through a meeting, and c.f will get away with it.