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Would you let your 14 yr old and 12yr old attend a football match alone?

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 31/08/2018 17:37

Only 2 tickets available for upcoming Champions League games. Both sons are into football but hardly ever get to go to the game. The plan was for DH to go each time and alternate which son he took. Problem: The first match is a BIG one and both boys would give their right arm to attend.

It is Ds1’s “turn” to attend a match. They all rarely go as can’t get tickets. So he hasn’t been in many months and is excited. But DS2 hasn’t been to as many games in his life as DS1 has and he also hasn’t been for many months either. Plus one of his heroes will be playing. I can see why they both want to go to it and both have good reasons.

DH has suggested he gives up his ticket so they can both go, and he would take them to the turnstiles and pick them up after the game. I have said a shocked “no way! It is an evening game, with a massive foreign side, there could be trouble at the ground and no-one will be there to look after them, you don’t know who they’ll be sitting next to, and they are CHILDREN.”

DH said that he and his brothers used to go in in their own as kids but that was in the days before the Premier League and Sky andloads more families and kids went particularly on a Saturday afternoon as it was cheap (er)

Am I doing the right thing saying no to this? Ds2 is so disappointed.

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Lovelylovelyllamas · 31/08/2018 19:51

Feel for your DS2 curly but I have to admit I find the whole thing quite overwhelming as an adult. Wonderful but overwhelming.

yetalk I’m opposite you in 440 Jock Stein. I’ll be waving Grin

YeTalkShiteHen · 31/08/2018 19:52

I hear you, distractions are a big help!!

There’s a Celtic/Liverpool charity match next week, Milner and Klopp (and maybe others?) are coming up for it Grin we can’t go as we already had plans, but I’d have loved to have gone!

We went to Liverpool last year (I’ve always wanted to see the Liver Building, no idea why I’ve just always loved it) and went to Anfield and left a scarf on the memorial. You live in a lovely city!

YeTalkShiteHen · 31/08/2018 19:53

Lovelylovelyllamas I wonder if we’ll pass each other on the way up London Road??? Are you going on Sunday?

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Lovelylovelyllamas · 31/08/2018 19:59

YeTalk Of course we pass each other Grin Yep to Sunday too. Having palpitations thinking about it already. Are you?

YeTalkShiteHen · 31/08/2018 20:01

Grin I’ll be looking at everyone walking past wondering if it’s you!

Oh aye I’m bouncing! Went out a run to the superstore this morning and got myself the away strip Smile got DD a signed Kieran Tierney pic for Christmas too, she’ll scream the house down!!!

What do you reckon Sunday will bring? I reckon we’ve got hee haw to worry about Grin

bourbonbiccy · 31/08/2018 20:16

OP no way would I sorry. I think if anything tragically went wrong you would never forgive yourself. Even knowing all the safety info and briefs, in the heat of the moment do you think both your sons would react rationally, and do you know that one of stewards would be able to get to them, sadly not.
I also don't think it would be fair to put that level of responsibility on a 14 yr old, he would never forgive himself if anything happened.
It is definitely a moment they would never forget but could be for all the wrong reasons.... Sorry to be a downer just my opinion x

Lovelylovelyllamas · 31/08/2018 20:18

I hope you’re right. But sure didn’t they make it into Europe with only 9 men Hmm
Good work on the KT pic. I got my French Eddy CSC badge in the post this week which has had me chuckling for days.
Should we start a Mumsnet CSC thread?!

cptartapp · 31/08/2018 20:21

I have a 15 and a just 13 year old. My 14 year old went to local games with his friend at that age quite regularly but I wouldn't have let my other son go too at 12 without an adult. It would be making the older one responsible for the younger that I wouldn't be comfortable with. Police were pepper spraying fans at our nice respectable ground two weeks ago.

Snoopychildminder · 31/08/2018 20:24

Coming from a Manchester United fan (hate Liverpool with a passion) you have got to let them go, it will be unbelievable for your sons, they will have the time of their lives.

P.s hope Liverpool lose GrinWink

YeTalkShiteHen · 31/08/2018 20:26

Lovelylovelyllamas aye 9 men in the box as is their usual I’m no looking forward to that big bastard Lafferty either, he’s a scumbag.

But I reckon we’ve got what it takes. Ah love French Eddy! Not so impressed with Dembele after today’s carry on!

Aye we should! I know there’s a few of us on here! MNCSC we need a banner Grin

Lovelylovelyllamas · 31/08/2018 20:30

YeTalk I wish I had some photoshop skills..... Meet you back here Sunday evening Grin

CurlyhairedAssassin · 31/08/2018 20:33

“. Police were pepper spraying fans at our nice respectable ground two weeks ago.”

Jesus! See, there are just too many “whatifs”. Glad they’re not able to go now.well, eldest will, with DH

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 31/08/2018 20:37

YeTalk: thanks for the nice comments about my city. I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else! Have lived in London and always yearned to come back. I used to see the Liver Building on telly occasionally and get such a pang so glad we moved back.

Enjoy Sunday!

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Saidthesharktotheflyingfish · 31/08/2018 21:07

I'm really curious as to what might go 'tragically wrong'? They are in much more danger crossing a road.

gunnergirl · 31/08/2018 21:10

I would let them go been going arsenal all my life went with mates from 14 and it was worse for hooligans then I saw a few fights but now at premier grounds security is tight I would def let my son go at this age if picking up after

Toodle · 01/09/2018 08:15

www.independent.co.uk/sport/football/european/arsenal-cologne-emirates-fan-troubles-europa-league-clash-a7948956.html

www.thesun.co.uk/sport/football/6021164/shocking-brawl-manchester-city-supporters-liverpool-fan-etihad/

talksport.com/football/362495/liverpool-v-roma-fans-pictured-setting-flares-police-vans-ahead-champions-league-semi-final/

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.independent.ie/sport/soccer/premier-league/liverpool/uefa-confirm-they-will-investigate-crowd-trouble-before-liverpools-champions-league-win-over-manchester-city-36777962.html

www.espn.com.au/football/uefa-champions-league/story/2066269/galatasaray-fans-throw-flares-during-champions-league-game-at-arsenal

I'm sorry, but anyone acting like they've never heard of any trouble at any premier league stadium either doesn't watch much football or they have rose coloured glasses on. There are numerous examples. Some may seem minor but it can still happen.It doesn't stop me from going to matches, nor taking my 10 year old with me. But let's not pretend football grounds are perfect, trouble free wholesome days out all the time. Even if it's not specifically fans hurting other fans, even a hostile environment or flares being thrown on the pitch can be intimidating.

FWIW OP, I can't see much trouble happening between lfc and psg but if the rules say no under 16's unaccompanied there's not much you can do.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/09/2018 17:52

YeTalk: just seem what went on at Celtic today. can’t quite believe this has happened after so many people here poo-poohed the likelihood of anything bad happening at a football game.

I hope you weren’t involved, come back and let us know you’re ok.

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/09/2018 17:56

And lovelylovelyllamas: hope it wasn’t too scary there today.

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MumUnderTheMoon · 02/09/2018 22:02

No I wouldn't let them go alone. What if something went wrong would they really be mature enough to make safe decisions? Whoever's turn it is should go.

Bbbbb27 · 02/09/2018 22:17

My dd’s and dh have season tickets for a London premiership club. Dd’s (15 and 14) often walk into the stadium without dh whilst he stands outside chatting to old friends.... he is only a few minutes behind them but the stadium security have never stopped them.

Saying that, they’ve been season tickets holders for 3 years and I don’t think i’d let them go without dh, unless our good friends who sit in the same stand were going to be there.

YeTalkShiteHen · 03/09/2018 06:27

CurlyhairedAssassin I’m actually gutted that I told you that stuff never happens, in 25 years of going I’ve never seen anything like it! The police closed the segregation gates for absolutely no reason!!!

Thankfully we weren’t caught up in it, our tickets were for the other end and we were in the ground an hour early (it had been all over Twitter and Facebook to come early because of segregation issues).

Horrendous. Absolutely horrendous. Genuinely never seen anything like it. I feel a right twat now for saying nothing would ever happen, if it had been after yesterday I’d have said different!

Was a shit hot game yesterday, absolutely incredible atmosphere but that has overshadowed it tbh.

Thanks for asking and I’m sorry for giving such confident yet wrong advice!

YeTalkShiteHen · 03/09/2018 06:29

I have to add, before yesterday I’d have confidently allowed DS1 and an older friend to go alone! Absolutely would not now, at all. I’m really angry with the police and stewards for what happened, there were little kids caught up in that!

And after the game the police wouldn’t allow a woman (girl? She looked young) back to her friends and instead sent her towards the rangers fans!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/09/2018 23:10

Sounds horrendous, I’m glad you were ok!

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