I am so upset

[dolphinstar]

Last night my grandad died, it was horrific, he was in pain, they kept pumping him full of drugs and we sat with him for over 12 hours, he couldn't get comfortable he had terminal cancer and in the end sepsis. He finally got comfortable and passed away the early hours of this morning.
I have work all day tomorrow and rung up to ask if perhaps I could do just a half day (as my head is all over the place after what we witnessed and went through)
My manager was so unsympathetic, just said sorry I need you in all day and that was that.
I'm so upset I don't know what to do right now.
He went down hill so fast no one was expecting it we thought he had more time
Just wanted a hand hold really

Oh I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Especially when it was so distressing.

Have a hand hold from me

So sorry to hear that, it must be awful to see him in pain. Surely you can't be in any state to work? Can you call in sick?

Wishing you strength...

So sorry @dolphinstar
Your manager is an asshat- you need space to grieve - don't feel you need to hide if you're upset and crying - personally I'd tell my staff to stay home even if their doggy had died! It's very upsetting particularly under the circumstances

I’m so sorry for your loss . That’s so awful for you. Do you have a child? as I was going to say you could say I’m taking a unpaid parental leave.

So sorry about your Grandad

It must have been awful to see someone you love suffering so much. Sorry as well that your boss wasn't more sympathetic, hopefully when you get there your colleagues will be though and they might be able to give you some of the support you need away from family. It might be better to save the time off for the funeral anyway.

Look after yourself x

so sorry it's horrible to watch a loved one suffer like that, I've been there
I wouldn't think you would be fit for work, could you phone in sick?
interestingly, when my dad died, my son was given 2 days off compassionate leave but my daughter had to take annual leave as it was 'only' her grandad

I'm so sorry

Thank you everyone
I work in retail so would be customer facing all day.
DH said that I absolutely am not going in tomorrow and I'm to call in sick. I thought by doing half a day I was doing them a favour but to get that response...It just made me feel even worse than I already do

When a person close to you dies, you go into shock. I found I couldn't think straight or concentrate. The world seemed to be a million miles away; I had 3 weeks off work

I would absolutely be taking the time off. I lost my grandad two years ago - he was one of my best friends, and I miss him every day. I'm sorry for your loss .

Check your company policy on compassionate leave.

I would also be complaining about your manager. Regardless of the policy, you should have been treated with more sympathy.

I'm so sorry

Listen to your DH.