One I start drinking I struggle to stop.

[Raven88]

I struggle to control my drinking so I avoid alcohol but I want to be able to drink normally because I enjoy the taste. I'm getting better at stopping but I become argumentative and I want to carry on.

DH knows to stop me going too far and he will say no and once I sober up I am thankful he did but he shouldn't have to do that. I always tell myself I'll be fine if I just have one or two but as soon as I start getting tipsy I want more to keep the feeling.

Any advice. Do I need to go teetotal? I have a history of alcoholism in my family so I'm concerned. I'm going in to therapy for my mental health issues next month.

I have no experience of this, but it does sound like maybe you should stop drinking, although I know this is had in social situations.

Sorry, meant to say “I know this is hard”.

I really recommend the book 'this naked mind' by Annie grace. £2.99 on kindle. Approach it with a totally open mind.

It doesn't sound like it's for you, your husband shouldn't have to control your drinking. I guarantee it won't be fun for him. Why bother when you know you struggle finding your off switch.

It sounds like its in your genes. Think of it like being allergic or intolerant to alcohol - its just not worth it (for your loved ones).

Raven88 i imagine its quite difficult for both of you. I want to say that just because others in your family drank to excess, it doesn't have mean you will be the same. How do you know you drink too much? is it from your own perspective or from another's point of view... we each have very different maps of the world based on our own internal perspectives. The majority of issues surrounding alcohol tends to be to avoid emotions that come up for us. It becomes a coping mechanism. Were not always aware of what the triggers are. it's good that you are getting help as sometimes just having that space and support with a good therapist can make all the difference you need x

I don’t know if my advice will help but I want to give a perspective from the other side.

My ex was a drinker and there was alcoholism in his family. Once he started drinking he couldn’t stop and as he drank he got more argumentative. He went tee total for a while and honestly was a different person but the tee total phase was short lived sadly.

In the end I couldn’t put up with the drunken arguments. I feared going out with him to pubs as he drank more so he became even more argumentative. I felt like I was policing him and trying to get him home by the 8th pint because I knew it’d turn into a nightmare. It made me miserable in the end.

I don’t know how regularly you drink but even if it’s a once a week situation it will wear your partner down. I would go tee total, not only for yourself but for your partner.

I don't drink regularly and reserve it for special occasions and holidays and the odd night out. My DH isn't a big drinker and enjoys a couple of beers but it doesn't change him. I'm going teetotal because I am concerned that I have the ability to become dependent. My behaviour when drinking isn't terrible but I almost go off the rails. Thanks for replies. I've had a good think and chat with DH today.

Raven88 I think you are making the right decision. It says a lot about you that you can recognise the danger and are choosing to do something before it is too late.