Could someone make me feel a bit better please?

[Mississippilessly]

I'm expecting our first baby on Tuesday so feeling a bit fragile.

DH is very sociable and has various hobbies (none of them outing!). It transpires that he has organised to do something related to one of them on Saturday and Sunday. I knew about the Sunday one and he swears he asked me about the Saturday and I said yes. Sunday I'm not too worried about, he will always be contactable and would be about an hr away, but Saturday would mean 2 stints of 45 mins or so where he wouldn't be contactable, and then about an hr away.

He has also booked himself something for the 8th and 15th. Again apparently he asked me and I said it was fine.

He wouldn't lie, I have clearly said it is OK but now I'm just feeling a bit shit and emotional about it. We have had problems before where he has put stuff before me and we sorted it out. I'm swinging between thinking 'it will all be fine, I said yes anyway and he isn't far away' and 'I don't understand why he can't just say no'.

Feel a bit teary and a bit crap.

Are you worried about going into labour and him not being contactable or are you worrying about being left alone with a new born? Sorry, it's not clear.

I’d feel worried I couldn’t contact him too. I wouldn’t have thought you’d forget all those things-are you sure he definitely asked?

I’d expect him not to be uncontactable but would see if you could get a back up partner.

He’s being selfish if he goes.

kaytee I'm not really sure! I'm a bit upset about the 8th and the 15th in that I might have a newborn and it would be nice if he was around.

I have a back up birth partner but she is at a wedding on Saturday so not much use!

Can you make your own plans for when he is doing his hobbies? Get someone to come and spend some time with you? I understand it’s a bit rubbish when they are so devoted to their interests... chin up love

Good luck for the birth and beyond xx

You don't know you will have a shirt or long labour, however for a first it's unlikely that you will go from nothing to full on labour in 45 minutes.
Ask him to call in just before, and just after. And maybe he can give his phone to someone during so you feel less separated from him

DH had a 2.5 hour exam half an hour away when I was in labour with Ds. He asked the invidulator if he could leave his mobile with the receptionist outside and she would come and get him if I rang.

Thanks everyone. You've made me feel a bit better but not saying he is a complete prick because I can't work out how I feel!

Witchend that's a great idea, thank you!