Do you think that if you lawck confidence, it affects the way your parenting negatively?

[edex]

Ive been doing a lot reading about self confidence/ self esteem etc over the last few years. Its held me back massively from my jobs to my relationships and just about everything really.

On a separate note, I want to work on my parenting as I feel I'm a crap parent. I'm obviously not neglecting my kids or anything but I definitely could do more to improve my relationship with each of my children, play with them more, talk to them more on a one to one, not flip when I'm stressed etc etc.

It's got me thinking that alot of it is linked back to my low self confidence and I'm just wondering if anyone else feels this way too? I feel because of the way that I am , I've not been able to be the best parent I could have been which saddens me even more.

I could just be rambling nonsense of course too!

I’m pretty confident and I’m sure it would effect it negatively if I wasn’t because even slight normal every day self doubt does, e.g. make me less likely to follow through on discipline and be less consistent with rules and stuff or make me feel like maybe my kid isn’t crying because they’re a baby and it just happens sometimes but because I’ve failed them somehow and have to desperately try and solve it gpright now before it does any more damage.

Yes

Definitely. My lack of confidence makes me question everything I do as a parent. It makes me less patient because I feel anxious that their behaviour isn't 'normal' and everyone else is doing a better job. I frequently feel like I'm screwing up. It's hard.

No. It’s the one thing I am absolutely certain I am not doing completely terribly. The kids are the best thing to happen to me and the only thing that doesn’t fill me with anxiety Apart from my massive and intrusive fear of dying early and leaving them, I know that even though I’m not perfect I am still giving them all the love and opportunities and character building and attention and space to grow that I never had.

I'm pretty confident in general and people say I am outgoing and relaxed, but I still lose my temper with ds' and they still tell me they hate me fairly regularly (but also that they love me slightly more often ) The only difference is maybe I don't worry too much about it and don't feel too stressed about it !