If you are super organised with high standards, how exhausted are you?

[SandysMam]

I would say we have fairly low standards but yet I spend ALL day cleaning, cooking, shopping and sorting out the kids. I do however like to get everything done so that when they are in bed, we can relax.

Tasks I achieve every day are general tidying which includes washing up, wiping surfaces and hand held hoover on the floor to pick up crumbs etc.
I also try to do one wash load a day. I make dinner, sometimes a Bolognese or stew from scratch but probably 4 out of 7 we have a freezer dinner or jacket spuds, so very little effort. The baby is bathed every day and the big one every few days. I struggle to keep on top of shopping and meal planning and the house is never spotless. I struggle to find time to read with the big one and feel I am letting everyone down
If you do everything perfectly, do you work until 11pm at night to get it all done? And if your a bit of a slob, do you feel lovely and relaxed? I can’t decide if I am lazy or if I do more than average and need to cut my standards even more so as to feel less stressed!

Don't know the answer, but I know exactly how you feel. I'm on school holidays at the moment and come to the conclusion I'm actually naturally lazy but I've been trying to keep on top of everything. Its hard work! I feel like no matter how much l do, there is always more to do.

How small is the baby? Is there a DP/DH in which case can you take it in turns to read with/listen to the eldest each night?

I have fairly high standards, but a mostly organised system helps.

I am super organised.. but I am quite messy at home. I’m probably quite lazy too.

For example today o booked appointments for the children to get new shoes next week and I measured my son’s trousers for school so I can shorten them. But I bought all his uniform at the end of last term when I had time rather than do it in the holidays. I never miss a birthday and we eat home cooked from scratch every evening.
I have a very supportive husband, and a Cleaner!

I make lists in the notes section of my phone. It might sound completely insane but I have a day to day schedule written down at least a week in advance so I know what the plan is for the following day and don’t forget anything. I don’t mean that I write ‘bath kids’ or ‘feed cat’ , I will just write little memos of things I would otherwise forget and also will say clean x and x, put washing on etc so I don’t fall behind. It’s the only way I don’t forget to do innocuous tasks like taking the bin out tbh.

You sound similar to me op in terms of what you get done each day. I've come to the conclusion that the only way to have an immaculate house when you have child is to literally never stop!

I was trying to fit loads into one day and running around like a blue arsed fry. Anyway I had a revelation: I decided that each day I could only do one main chore. (I work full time too). I worked out what these chores were, then worked out which day was best for each one. So from now on upstairs gets cleaned on a Saturday. Family outings on a Sunday. Monday is downstairs cleaning. Tuesday is the weekly shop. Wednesday is connected to my job. Thursday is gardening. Friday is odd jobs DIY and admin. This for me covers all in one week. And if it doesn't get done I feel that I have given that chore / job all that I can give for that week. Now obviously there are daily things I do such as emptying dishwasher and moving on the clothes washing that get done everyday. But I do them first thing to get rid of them quickly. It works well.

Crazily exhausted! Work full time, dp also full time 2 dcs age 18 & 13 so not young, but it’s all too much!! I am super organised but find I spend all weekend cleaning, ironing and shopping. I try to do a little each day so quick look clean before bed, wipe round bathroom and a wash on but still! Dcs are helpful and have own jobs to do but eldest is out 7.30-8pm m-f so keeps her own room tidy but not much else, youngest is helpful and dp is too but I’m still knackered!!

I like @clankboing idea

Tbh I do everything you do plus a part time office job and a full time college course.

I run flat out of energy at 5pm. I'm always knackered but I have high(ish) standards for the house. I hate mess/being unorganised it irks me.

If I push through and make dinner etc I'm ready for bed at about 7pm 😂

Thanks everyone, should also add I work 3 days a week too. I just feel like I work constantly and the house is still a tip and the kids aren’t really looked after the way I dreamed of (they are fed, cleanish and loved but not immaculate, organic or hot housed the way I always thought it would be!).
I felt shit yesterday when after another day of non stop work, nothing had been achieved! I really like the one big thing a day idea and am going to start that. Thank you!

Op I am similar and have found a brilliant woman on YouTube who I really related to and her motto is that she wants to get as much done in the least amount of time possible. She is very big on throwing crap away and using timers etc but give her a go.

The channel is called clutterbug. When I have her on in the background I get twice as much done. I even bought her books which I need to read

Sometimes i spend all day chipping away at the house and it looks worse than when I started

they are fed, cleanish and loved but not immaculate, organic or hot housed

Sounds as if the DC, at least, have had a lucky break

I think that's just life - especially with small children.

You cook, but it needs doing again tomorrow and the next day. You do washing, but it needs doing again - and when you catch up, it's time to strip the beds.

You clean and someone makes crumbs, does art, dust collects, school letters arrive, bills, it's someone's birthday etc.

A good system to deal with things certainly helps, cooking double quantities of things like bolognaise or chilli and putting one lot in the freezer etc all helps.