If your first child was an easy baby, how was your second??

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DD (8 months) is an easy baby. She sleeps from 6.30pm-7am, has a morning nap and 2hr lunch nap.
Naps/sleeps anywhere - pram, cot, bed, plane bassinet..
Never went through any sleep regressions.
Hasn't really suffered with teething pain.
Breastfeeding came naturally to both of us.
She's never refused a bottle. In fact we have many varieties of bottles and she happily takes them all.
She isn't fussed about what brand of formula she has (again tried many varieties while travelling).
Eats well/eats everything.
Always happy and content and smiley. Very low maintenance.

Almost certainly nothing to do with my parenting and mostly down to luck of the draw.

I'm pregnant with DC2 and really worried the next one is going to be difficult.

What's everyone else's experience? Will I end up with another 'easy' baby or are they all different?

Ha ha ha ha ha!
2 was...challenging. She’s a delightful teen though!

DS1 was a perfect baby, slept through 12 hours from 8 weeks, DS2 was a delight, DS3 however, nearly broke me. He didn’t sleep through until he was 15 months old, and even then was an early riser, still is at nearly 10.

DD1 the easiest baby you could imagine. Slept through the night almost from day one.

DD2 demanding and in your face from the moment she drew breath.Yet fun and lively and wonderful in a different way. As an adult she is still fun and lively.

Sadly DD1 died age 5. We then had DD3. She was a contented and easy baby. But now as a young adult she never seems happy- always discontented with life.

They are all different.

1 was easy as we didn't know any better..breastfed like a dream!!!!
2 was a nightmare....now actually severely disabled with a rare Gene mutation...so that's why..
3 absolute dream once we discovered she was allergic to dairy...removed all the diary from diet...she was fine !!!!

Turns out DC1 has ASD too !!!
Bloody kids !

Ha DD was like this and I was convinced that DS would be a nightmare because I couldn't be that lucky. But actually he is also a super chilled baby. But fussier than DD was but generally an easy baby.

@ApolloandDaphne I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your DD xx

I have two DDs. Both a dream and sleeping through from 8 weeks old.

Same boat as you now. Pregnant again and terrified this one is gonna be a nightmare compared!

Same here, dc3 nearly breaks me every day and is nearly 7. Was a nightmare from the minute he was born. Ironically he was the easiest pregnancy by miles

Number 2 was the exact opposite of my perfect first baby and I strongly believe that most first borns are easy going in order to trick you into thinking you can totally handle all this parenting malarkey and why do people even complain, so then you have more. Then your subsequent children are absolute nightmares more typical babies and you realise the true definition of sleep deprivation.

Anyway good luck

Ds1 a nightmare so much it took as 6 years to go it again. Ds3 is 8 weeks and a nightmare too. Reflux hell, here we go again

Dc1 was a dream baby...so placid. Slept like a log. Even the nightfeeds were easy. Would feed and go straight back to sleep

I was very shocked when dc2 arrived...she was totally different...I felt like she never slept!

Dd 5 Made us quite smug so when pg with ds2 we were smug thinking that we are perfect parents but nope just luck ds still hasn’t slept though no words etc

So another luck of the draw then but odds probably aren't in my favour 🙈

@ApolloandDaphne very sorry to hear about your DD xxx

DD1 was a dream. Slept through from 6 weeks, rarely cried, easily entertained, you could put her down to do anything you like (clean, pee etc). Even as a toddler she continued to be easy, rarely had a tantrum and when she did it was nothing compared to some children. She does have a little attitude now at nearly 7, but still a good child.

DD2, she has reflux, wants to be held all the time. Whines/cries all the time. Hard to keep entertained etc, she is basically the opposite of DD1. She's only 6mo, I can only imagine what her toddler years will be like!!!

Dc1 nightmare.
Dc2 beautiful, calm, liked to sleep
Dc3 (can't really remember...so I presume that means he was fine and just slotted into the family)
Dc4 nightmare

Summary: aaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhh.

But I luffs her :)

DS1 was fairly easy and slept well from very small.
DS2 - oh my.......not a lot of sleep required until he was a teenager.He was a real handful. Having said that at 22 he is a really nice young man and very thoughtful.

DC 1, slept through from 10-7 at 6 weeks, continues to sleep well now at 5, will happily go to bed at 7 and fall asleep straight away till at least 7 next morning.

DC2, was nearly 2 when first slept through, he very nearly broke me, DH dealt with it a lot better than I did! 2.5 now and I’m currently sat in the dark stroking his back to try and get him to sleep, can’t keave him because he’d be out of bed waking his brother up!

Personality wise they are complete oppsites. DC 1 is laid back, happy and eager to please, DC2 is fiery and knows what they want and will!!

Both absolutely amazing and wouldn’t gave it any other way!

By admitting it was luck rather than design your DC1 is easy you won’t have a big fall from grace if you had been preaching about “it’s all about routine” or any any other lines thrown out by parents of “easy” babies.
Anyway you haven’t hit the toddler years yet

You’ll be fine!

Ds was an easy baby and is relatively laid back now.
Dd was an easy baby. Slept through at 5 weeks! Then she learnt to walk and talk she's getting worse with age wouldn't change her sassiness for anything though.

DC1 was a nightmare baby, cried more or less non stop to the age of 1. Got to age 2 and grew into an easy going toddler.

DC2 was a dream baby, happy, content and slept great. Got to age 2 and hit terrible two's with a vengeance!

It's the luck of the draw still I guess, but I definitely credit a lot of DC2's easy going attitude to our more easy going attitude to parenthood the second time round!

Ds1 was perfect, dd1 was fucking evil! She screamed at everyone but me, even if they looked at her she screamed! She was challenging!! Now they are both feral (13 month gap)

Ds1 was great fun and full of life, inquisitive and loud from day 1. Slept well in blocks e.g. good at napping easy to get to sleep but never slept a full night till 1. Even after he started sleeping well he is non stop energy when awake and up from 6am still at 3.5. I was tired due to his business but he would take boob, so other, any bottle, any formula and go to anyone so I could get a break when needed.

Ds2 is so placid and chilled in comparison but a total Velcro baby. Won't take a bottle and is just obsessed with me. I've never been so adored. But I'm exhausted in a totally different way than I was with ds1. But I don't mind as much. As I know time will go quickly in hindsight. So I stay with him and co sleep and spoil him rotten.

My biggest shock as a parent was how different they are. Not bad or good or even comparable, but their own little personality from day one.

Ds1 was the easiest baby. Slept well, lived formula, was sick a total of 5 times in his first year. Had a nice routine going too. Didn't cry very much, he was a contented little thing. Loved cuddles, but was happy to be on his play mat when I needed to do stuff.
Ds2 on the other hand…
Only slept through aged 3. Screamed a lot. Wouldn't touch any formula, the little he did drink came straight back. I bf on demand and he cluster fed like crazy.
He spent what felt like most of his first two years just crying. He was a late talker too, which was frustrating.
Chalk and cheese, my two.

One reason I have vowed never to have another baby is because DD is an actual day dream baby and I know I wouldn’t be so lucky next time.

I cant comment on a second dc. However, my mother always said that if she'd had my db first, she'd have been sterilized.

I have 13 months between my two, DD2 was a nightmare baby. She would only sleep with me from birth, the midwives couldn't get her to settle and that continued until about 10 months. Likewise feeding, as far as she was concerned milk came from the breast and refused screamed her head off for hours any other options. All she seemed to do was scream. Thankfully at about 9 1/2 months something changed and she seemed to somehow relax and start sleeping in her own cot rather than with us and then she accepted a bottle from her father. I think a lot of it was frustration she couldn't do anything. She's all grown up now and absolutely brilliant, if a little bossy