TTC after two months

[Loudloopy]

Hey all very very new hear first post, and I’m TTC for a 2nd, I conceived my forst after two months, I’ve been trying for 2 and still not pregnant, I know it’s not a long time but I’m just worrying about what if o can’t have anymore I know I’m being dramatic but it’s just worrying me specially as I had a csection last time and all sorts growing through my mind, please help fellow mamas and put my mind at rest 😓

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The more I talk to people about conceiving the more it seems that getting pregnant with number 2 takes a bit more work! I got pregnant with dd1 straight away and dd2 took about 6 months. Just try to relax, stay healthy and enjoy life until it happens

Thanks so much for the reassurance, I was worried people will think I was being dramatic but it’s really bothering me specially as I’ve had such bad health anxiety since my first😔 thanks for the chin up means the world

It is entirely normal to try for much much longer that two months without getting pregnant. Depending on your age, you should see the doctor after 6 months or 12 months of trying without success. That’s a long way off for you though.

Thanks Hun think I just needed reassurance that it’s normal, I know some people struggle for years but I think it’s just the worry it’s not like last time and it’s my worst fear not being able to have more 😔 like bumblebee said I need to relax and just enjoy the time I have with my LO and just try and chill

Lou x

It’s teally hard, and the more people tell you to “relax”, the harder it is! Good luck to you, I hope it’ll happen soon.

You've got to chill out after 2 months or you'll send yourself crazy with it.

I conceived dc1 in 3 months took almost. Year with dc2 5 years later in mid 30's. I convinced myself there was something wrong but there really wasn't. I know it's easy to say after the fact now

In the nicest way, it’s only been two months, that is nothing in terms of conceiving.

You’re going to get a lot of people getting quite irate with you about this. Some people have been trying years with no joy. It took me htree years to conceive my first after endless fertility tests and treatment.

Chill out and enjoy it a little more.

This makes me feel so so much better with my first LO I went through the mill worth he birth ended in c section followed by serve reflux and just felt like I didn’t take it all in with him he is now 18m old, I just felt like I missed out when I should of been enjoying it, I’m desprate for another to just try and relax with

Thanks for the encouragement

Lou

You’re going to get a lot of people getting quite irate with you about this. Some people have been trying years with no joy.

The op hasn’t posted in infertility. It’s fine for her to ask for reassurance.

My apologies, I thought this was in AIBU at first.

Op, I was the same after my first. I had such bad PND I cannot remember the first year of his life, and wanted to have another so I could experience that. It was more relaxed as I knew what I was doing, but still had its issues. You cannot foresee how,it’s going to go

Best of luck to you.

Hi, I know how it feels to be emotional about this and not be able to think logically. It took 2.5 years and IVF to have my first and now we are also two months in to trying naturally for a second and it’s already all I can think about.

I read that even if everything is perfectly fine there’s only a 20% chance of falling pregnant each month so it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you if it doesn’t happen quickly.

Fingers crossed for you that it happens soon x

Thanks so much for the reassurance, love here positive stories like this, again the chin up was just what I wanted just the reassurance that I’m not stupid or inthoughtful sure it’s every women’s worry and I know it’s selfish as I already have a beautiful little boy I just want a little sibling specially whilst I’m in the mind set and ready to do it again and didn’t want a huge age gap between my LO XXX

You were super lucky first time around. Two months really isn't any time at all, it's common for an egg not to be released at all or it to be 'duff' so don't worry ... how old are you both?

We’re both 25 and 29 so we’re only young, yes I was very lucky, i just feel deflated I supposed o just wish I started earlier ttc ❤️😔 x

I got pregnant immediately with DS1, it took a year with DC2. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong, it's incredibly lucky to get pregnant on your first cycle once, so it's beyond unlikely to happen twice.

Hearing all these stories is making me feel so much better, did any of you panic a little bit by not getting pregnant as quick second time round ? Xx

I was starting to get a bit worried by the 12th month, I was about to book a GP appointment for some tests to check nothing was wrong, but then I got the positive pregnancy test.
Ironically, after months of avoiding alcohol, doing ovulation tests, taking folic acid religiously etc, I actually got pregnant the month when I had a couple of spa days, drank more wine than usual and forgot my folic acid for a week. So maybe the incredibly irritating saying about 'just relax and it will happen' might have something in it.

So maybe the incredibly irritating saying about 'just relax and it will happen' might have something in it.

It is incredibly irritating. Why trot it out? People get pregnant in war zones. Relaxing has bugger all to do with anything.

Folic acid doesn’t aid conception. It helps prevent neural tube defects if you do conceive.

No offence intended purple, sorry. It was only a personal anecdote, but there are studies that indicate that high levels of stress can affect your menstrual cycle. I know what folic acid does, I was merely illustrating that I was doing everything you're 'supposed' to do when TTC and therefore I was surprised that it happened when I decided to give myself a bit of a break from obsessing about it for a month.
Essentially what I'm trying to say is try not to worry about it OP!