When were you last offended?

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Inspired by another thread.

I can’t remember when I was last offended. Can you?

I wasn't really offended, because I know the people involved and know they meant no harm, but on holiday recently my mil and fil kept commenting on my toddler's growing vocabulary and skills, and every single time attributed it to her nursery. She goes one day a week. They only said it because they picked her up one day and were very impressed by the nursery set up, but it has become a bit of an in joke between me and my husband that every time our daughter does or says something new it's because of nursery and absolutely nothing to do with us.

corythatwas those are the exact reasons I choose not to be offended

I’m not white, I have a disability, I’m female. I choose not to be offended by things because, as you so rightly said, I would spend my whole life being offended with the amount of shit that gets said!

Never.
Angry, upset, hurt, outraged, exasperated, frequently. But offended is a word used by the “pc gorn mad” to minimize the feelings of justifiable outrage some of their pronouncements engender. Goes with snowflake.

@corythatwas Very well put, I agree wholeheartedly. Nothing wrong with being offended by something that is offensive, and also nothing wrong with saying so and explaining why.

I was very offended by being treated like a second class citizen when I went back to work after having a baby. And I made sure my feelings were known. I just wish it had made the misogynistic arseholes change their behaviour, unfortunately I suspect they put it down to hormones 🙄

I was really offended a couple of months ago when the Deputy Governor of the Bank of England referred to the economy as "menopausal" and past its productive peak! As I am going through the menopause myself and was in the middle of being checked for endometrial cancer due to post meno bleed it really hit a sensitive spot and I ranted about this for a good couple of days!

When I walked to the pool on my lovely holiday and saw Tommy fucking Robinson lying baking in the sun.

Today. I feel calling a blackbird (an actual bird in a garden) ‘Meghan Markle’ is highly fucking offensive. Fucking idiot FIL

I got referred to as 'son' by an older colleague last month. Massively pissed me off but can't say I was offended.

HollySwift

What? I don’t even know where to start...

I can't remember. Plus, I can't be bothered.

I was a bit offended by a guest at a party I had a few weeks ago, she treated me like I was the waiting staff, didn't bring anything with her, drunk her fill of rhe most expensive booze, stuffed herself with the food and walked out without saying thanks or good bye to myself or my husband. She said goodbye to those who were there that she clearly liked and just didn't bother with us.

I'm not sure offended is thr right word, but I did think she was just a rude old woman, and as she isn't suffering from any mental health issues I suspect she's always simply been a rude woman.

For some reason her Ill mannered behaviour really annoyed me.

Mil the other day when she said she was very concerned that dh and I would be going to hell when we die!!
Apparently it's purely because we don't go to church, and according to her anyone who doesn't go to church every Sunday can't go to heaven.

I think what offended me about it is that dh and I have devoted our careers to helping others (both NHS), but she couldn't possibly give us credit for being good people.

I think I'm offended by her ignorant views!

I am rarely offended on my own behalf. The only time I can think of was a few years ago (at least 6 or 7). It was a comment that was made in a craft group I attended, a deliberate insult about my appearance, not a throw away remark. I was told "You shouldn't have that chocolate biscuit because you are too overweight!"

This wasn't a skinny yummy mummy but a lady in her 70's. I was speechless but another lady jumped to my defence and told her how rude she was and that her comment was ill mannered. She was unrepentant and made cryptic comments that my cheerful demeanour was covering up for the problems I had at home! I wasn't aware that I had any problems at home :-)

I went home and cried for a bit and ranted at my family then went back the following week and carried on being cheerful.

Her comment no longer upsets me but as a middle aged woman it took me back to being in school and the sort of comment you would get from a teenage bully.

Honestly, reading this you wonder what's wrong with some people, the things they do and say. 😔

when i was asked if i was my best mates mum! twice in the same fucking night tho!! wouldnt mind but im only 5 years older ffs

Hahaha I was about to post the same thing - I was asked if I was my friend's mum a few weeks back. I'm maybe 7 years older. I was emphatic in my response...

I am often high-stress and bothered by a lot of things, but rarely offended. I was fucking outraged when someone wrote into our customer service department and accused me of racial profiling when I said their huge box was too large to take on the train (tubeworker) and further accused me of saying I asked if there was a bomb inside. I remember that day, cos he sent a mate who was a news reporter to my work to harass me. All I said was that the item was too big and might cause an obstruction in an emergency. I didn’t even clock what ethnic or religious background he had.

Never get offended - it is for little people.

I can tell when something is offensive though. It’s just that I don’t take offence.

DM 'You think you're big, but really B is grotesque.' I was mildly offended on my own behalf, but very offended on behalf of B who has a life limiting illness.

In last few days, some MNner pointedly saying "What you just said is very stupid". If you don't get offended by that kind of thing, how do you react? Do you think "BS! The only person full of shit here isn't me!" or something else?

I can't think of anything in real life less than 10 yrs ago.

We are camping - uk- and took all dc into a corner shop last night about 5 pm. Empty shop except us, 4 x dc and all paid for their own items with their own money from own purses . "To many purses, too many dc" said the assistant!!

She didn't crack a smile, wasn't a joke!!
Cf!!

Very recently - was with my dm at an airport. Dm was in a wheelchair, and we were waiting for special assistance, so needed to be near the departure lounge desk. I sat in the disabled seat with dm next to me in the wheelchair.
Smartarse man next to me turns and says to me in a deadpan voice 'you're not disabled', to which I replied 'no I'm not but dm is' and why we were there.
At this point his wife pipes up with 'he's only joking, you have to get used to it'.
I pointed out that no, I don't have to get used to it.
I spent the rest of the time while we were waiting with my back to him.
You've just got to love the 'disability police'

mineofuseless really love "no I don't have to get used to it". Have a disabled dd who spent so much time in her teens internalising that "I mustn't get offended" that she now has a serious problems setting boundaries, basically prepared to put up with any kind of crap from her friends. She's now realising she does have a problem and that it's ok to say "no, I don't have to put up with this, it is offensive". But it's very hard to come back from a position of "oh no, of course, I'm not offended, I'm a good sport, I am".