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3 year old behaviour with puppy

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Hannahlouise4026 · 26/08/2018 14:02

I’m writing this almost in tears as I really have no idea what to do.
My daughter is 3.5 and we recently got a pet dog, who is now 6 months. She’s always been very keen and confident around dogs, never frightened and always keen to stroke them. We’ve never had a pet before. For the first month or so everything was fine. The pup was crate trained so while the kids were around she was in her crate to keep them and her safe. For the past couple of months, now that she is more reliable around the house and doesn’t pee everywhere, she spends most of her time in our kitchen/dining room. Since this time, every time my daughter is in the room she will try to pick her up, squeezes her (says she is hugging her) but it’s obvious the pup doesn’t like it and struggles to get away. Today I caught her pulling her back legs. She says cruel things about her too “I’m going to put puppy in the bin” and “I’m going to poke puppy’s eyes” “puppy is stupid” every time she says something like this I remind her that it’s nasty and no to behave like this. Today I lost it and put her in her bedroom and lost my temper at her shouting at her to leave the dog alone. She had her favourite toy removes too. 5 minutes later she came downstairs and atempts to pick the pup up again. I’m at a loss of what to do. I feel so terrible for the dog, but also feel my daughter is acting this way as a way of attention seeking but I’ve no idea how to solve this. I don’t want to have to rehome the pup (rest of family inc myself adore her. Not to mention she cost a lot of money) please no judgement I already feel awful.

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madvixen · 26/08/2018 14:06

How much of the pups training has she been involved in? Is it worth allowing her to go to pups training classes as the handler? We took a friends 4 year old to puppy classes with us. He picked up so much about how to behave round dogs and how to read their body language. It was great to see the bond form between the two of them.

PrincessWire · 26/08/2018 14:06

I'm sure someone will have a better answer but I think an important thing is to remove her from the situation when she's being horrid to the dog and make a big thing of praising her when she's nice to it.

Aprilshowersinaugust · 26/08/2018 14:09

Rehome it.
The dc I mean......

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llangennith · 26/08/2018 14:11

Your DD is very young and maybe doesn't fully appreciate she's hurting a living creature.
Tell her off sharply and firmly when she hurts the puppy. Tell her to "Leave the puppy alone!" Talking to her about being kind to the puppy can come later. Right now she needs to realise that she has to leave the puppy alone.

StressedToTheMaxx · 26/08/2018 14:11

My 2 year old sometimes pulls my mum's dogs legs. I am just constantly firm naughty spot and apologise to the dog. It is getting better but we don't live with the dog 24/7 so I imagine it must be frustrating. You seem to be doing all you can with being consistant. She is still little she will get there.
She does seem jealous though. It's there a way to get her a reward chart or stickers and she could be responsible for feeding the dog.
Ie. She helps mummy/ daddy put the food in the bowl, give it to the dog. Then lots of praise and a sticker for her while the dog is busy eating.

Haggisfish · 26/08/2018 14:11

Honestly? This is why I’m waiting until dc are at least six until getting an older rescue dog. Not helpful, sorry. Can you use a stair gate to separate dog from dc?

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