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Wwyd?

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:00

Late Teen dd texts at 2am to TELL you they're bringing a boy home. Never met boy wouldn't know him from Adam!

Trying to keep this as neutral as possible for honest answers but may add more later.

So wwyd?

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Phosphorus · 25/08/2018 03:05

How late teen?

Regardless, at 2am I'd just want her home. I'd chuck any tag alongs into the spare room/sofa and deal with house rules in the morning.

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:11

Almost 18.

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:11

You'd have a stranger in your home at this time of night?

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Phosphorus · 25/08/2018 03:16

Well they are not a stranger, they are a friend of your pretty much adult daughter.

I'd be fine with that as long as my child was safe.

Their friends are welcome in our home. I trust their judgement.

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:17

Not a friend someone she just met tonight.

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Phosphorus · 25/08/2018 03:25

Why don't you just tell the whole story, and you might get answers you find more useful.

I'd want her home anyway, with or without her friend.

UnrelentingFruitScoffer · 25/08/2018 03:26

Lock your door.

House4 · 25/08/2018 03:29

Does she normally have good judgement? Is she planning on sharing a room with him?!

sonlypuppyfat · 25/08/2018 03:32

Absolutely no way, tell her to get her own place if that's how she wants to behave

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:41

I'm deliberately not giving info in order to get as unbiased a response as possible

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 03:42

Does she normally have good judgement? No not on this kinda stuff.

Is she planning on sharing a room with him?! Yes - basically ons

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HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 25/08/2018 05:03

Meet them at the door and bring her inside and say a firm " thank you for walking her home " before you say good night and shut the door.

You need to set ground rules for this not to happen again . Sounds like your teenager thinks this behaviour is acceptable. IMO it isn't .

PhilomenaButterfly · 25/08/2018 05:08

I'd be most worried about any valuables. I hope you told her no.

LadyGAgain · 25/08/2018 05:10

It's interesting that she has chosen to tell you in advance so she's testing the waters. Is she drunk? So a ONS isn't a great idea for lots of reasons including conscious consent....
However tackling this tonight probably won't end well.
You want her to be safe. Don't lock the door. I would however be up to meet and greet.
And definitely a sober and straight talking conversation tomorrow after strong coffee.

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 06:43

I said no, she brought him anyway, I said no, she argued loudly, I said no and locked the door, she kicked and thumped the door until I let her in. I can't risk the police being called

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PotteringAlong · 25/08/2018 06:46

Did you just let her in or her and him?

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PollTaking · 25/08/2018 06:49

Just Her, she knew he was not getting in.

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 25/08/2018 06:53

No I wouldn’t let my dd aged 17 bring a guy home she’d just met that night.

loveisland · 25/08/2018 06:59

No I agree with you, you done the right thing !

AJPTaylor · 25/08/2018 07:02

Jeez yanbu at all!

retainertrainer · 25/08/2018 07:03

I agree with you too. If she wants to have a one night stand then she needs her own place. It’s really not fair on you to bring random’s into the family home.

Urbanbeetler · 25/08/2018 07:04

Any chance she was trying to keep him safe from something or someone?

Urbanbeetler · 25/08/2018 07:04

I’m playing devils advocate here - in principle I agree with you.

Wedontbelievewhatsontv · 25/08/2018 07:12

Definite NO from this household

buttybuttybutthole · 25/08/2018 07:17

I would probably have let her tbh.