Wwyd?

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Late Teen dd texts at 2am to TELL you they're bringing a boy home. Never met boy wouldn't know him from Adam!

Trying to keep this as neutral as possible for honest answers but may add more later.

So wwyd?

How late teen?

Regardless, at 2am I'd just want her home. I'd chuck any tag alongs into the spare room/sofa and deal with house rules in the morning.

Almost 18.

You'd have a stranger in your home at this time of night?

Well they are not a stranger, they are a friend of your pretty much adult daughter.

I'd be fine with that as long as my child was safe.

Their friends are welcome in our home. I trust their judgement.

Not a friend someone she just met tonight.

Why don't you just tell the whole story, and you might get answers you find more useful.

I'd want her home anyway, with or without her friend.

Lock your door.

Does she normally have good judgement? Is she planning on sharing a room with him?!

Absolutely no way, tell her to get her own place if that's how she wants to behave

I'm deliberately not giving info in order to get as unbiased a response as possible

Does she normally have good judgement? No not on this kinda stuff.

Is she planning on sharing a room with him?! Yes - basically ons

Meet them at the door and bring her inside and say a firm " thank you for walking her home " before you say good night and shut the door.

You need to set ground rules for this not to happen again . Sounds like your teenager thinks this behaviour is acceptable. IMO it isn't .

I'd be most worried about any valuables. I hope you told her no.

It's interesting that she has chosen to tell you in advance so she's testing the waters. Is she drunk? So a ONS isn't a great idea for lots of reasons including conscious consent....
However tackling this tonight probably won't end well.
You want her to be safe. Don't lock the door. I would however be up to meet and greet.
And definitely a sober and straight talking conversation tomorrow after strong coffee.

I said no, she brought him anyway, I said no, she argued loudly, I said no and locked the door, she kicked and thumped the door until I let her in. I can't risk the police being called

Did you just let her in or her and him?

Just Her, she knew he was not getting in.

No I wouldn’t let my dd aged 17 bring a guy home she’d just met that night.

No I agree with you, you done the right thing !

Jeez yanbu at all!

I agree with you too. If she wants to have a one night stand then she needs her own place. It’s really not fair on you to bring random’s into the family home.

Any chance she was trying to keep him safe from something or someone?

I’m playing devils advocate here - in principle I agree with you.

Definite NO from this household

I would probably have let her tbh.