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Why does this make me feel so shit?

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JustAGirlStandingInFrontOfABoy · 24/08/2018 23:25

Left a toxic friendship group, very much a queen bee type situation. Still friends with 2 out the 7 but rarely see them.

Queen Bee posted a photo with lots of ## with the likes of friends forever.

As a group it was toxic and I was made to feel shit, even crying after some meet ups. So why am I feeling sad at being left out and erased

I’m a freak obviously ConfusedGrin

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Carrrotsandcauliflower · 24/08/2018 23:30

Sounds like your best off out of it but your upset at not having felt accepted and that these people have been horrible to you. Which to be fair would upset most people. You’ve done the right thing exiting the group and I don’t blame you- there are plenty more friendly fish in the sea xx

Ohyesiam · 24/08/2018 23:33

Because you didn’t get your needs met there?
Humans need to be seen for who they are, and accepted and appreciated. We are social beings. When that doesn’t happen it’s lonley and it hurts.
You did good though, walking out of a shitty situation.
Hope you find some true friends to hang out with.
Oh and social media seems to cause as much heartache and destruction as any supposed connection it offers. I’ve deleted pretty much all of mine, and I’m freer and happier for it.

BlueUggs · 24/08/2018 23:33

I was involved in a group like this and exited it quite publicly.
I blocked all of them on social media to avoid how you are feeling right now.

Dottierichardson · 24/08/2018 23:39

There's something about bullying that often makes the victims feel guilty, as if they are the ones at fault. It's worse when the bullying comes from a group. You need to establish your own group, join a local interest group, books, knitting, walking, movies whatever it is that you enjoy and make new friends. Once you are established elsewhere you will feel better. In the meantime resist the temptation to check out the old group. It will get better, just give it time. Also some friends may reappear, groups that scapegoat tend to have that as part of their dynamic, someone else will end up being picked on in your place.

JustAGirlStandingInFrontOfABoy · 24/08/2018 23:48

Oh don’t worry, I’m not lonely and I have many good friends outside of that group.

As a group we were friends for an extremely long time and it’s very evident that none of them give a shit about me.

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