Facebook Messenger, have I been blocked?

[MummySparkle]

I deleted FB and messenger from my phone at the start of the summer holidays. Partly due to my MH, partly to distance myself from a friend who I'd let be completely over involved in my life, and partly to encourage me to spend less time on my phone and more time with my family.

Anyway, I realised messenger was actually quite useful, so reinstalled it. Before I deleted it I hid conversations from my friend somehow so they would come up in requests but not straight to me. We are both going to a party for mutual friend of our DCs tomorrow so I thought I'd send a message to make it less awkward whilst I'm there. Tried to send it, but I got this notification... what does it mean? Have I been blocked? Has she blocked everyone? Is t to do with my settings?

I was trying to reassure myself and I seem to have made things worse!

You did when you deleted it but when you got it back you hid her messages (it's actually called ignore messages) and I know this because ive done it recently if she knows what she's doing with Facebook she would of realised what you did.

Yes I did 'ignore' her messages if you want to be pedantic about it.

I reinstalled messenger as it is the best way for me to communicate with my cousin who was receiving her A-Level results. I checked 'ignore messages' from her as I didn't want notifications pinging up on my phone, but I have been checking the requests from time to time. I just wanted messages on my terms and when I felt able to deal with them. Is that such a bad thing?

Starting to think you might be her...

The reason I didn't ignore messages from anyone else? Nobody else messages me!

So why are you moaning? She would of realised what you had done and done what most other people would do in that situation and think F you and block you back. What you did was rude and hurtful and it doesn't sound like you had a good reason unless there's a massive drip feed coming. No i dont think I'm her I just can't stand people who moan when they get treated the same way they treat others.

@Cheekyfseverywhere I don't think you understand what happened.

OP didn't block the friend, she pressed ignore messages which just mean you don't get notifications but it doesn't stop the person being able to message you and the person will have no idea this has happened. See pic.

What the person did was block OP from being able to contact her atall, not the same thing atall. Muting notifications so somebody is not constantly blowing up your phone notifications and blocking someone from being able to message you are different

The picture wouldn't add. This is what happens when ignoring notifications & this is what happens when blocking someone

But it's not the same. I told her that I was coming off Facebook and messenger for the summer holidays. I noticed that she had sent me one message when I re-installed messenger to talk to my cousin. I chose to ignore her messages at that point as previously she was starting to cause friction between DH and I. I can only assume that it came up that I'd seen her message but not replied and that's what lead her to block me.

There is a big difference between not replying to any messages on messenger and hiding notifications and deliberately blocking an individual so that they are unable to contact you.

I'm wondering if she has unfriended me and blocked me to see if I have noticed. Eg finding out whether I've been on fb / messenger at all. But she unblocks me before school starts if I don't mention anything about it.

Of course it’s obvious when someone clicks to ignore your messages. The last active part disappears from under their name and obviously the messages remain on unread.

I’m sorry, you can just ignore someone for ages and then get mad when they get pissed off and block you. What you did was shit and I can’t say I blame her.

I bet* she unblocks me...

Why do you want to have contact again if you say she was causing friction between you and your husband. I’d steer well clear

Also, well done for stepping away from something to protect your MH.

I don’t think the technicalities actually matter all that much.

You needed a break from her, and she’s hurt by that.

Sorry, I also think you are at fault here. You can’t just drop people and expect to pick them back up again when you feel like it.

Good luck with tomorrow.

You are making a drama over nothing OP. Obviously you are not friends any more, so who cares? Move on!!

Anyone who knows what their doing with Facebook would know their messages have been ignored. I did it to my dh once when he kept sending me jokey memes (I was using my phone for some work at the time) and he knew and I wouldn't say he's any sort of tech wizard just has a basic understanding of Facebook. This person was obviously hurt by your actions and decided to give you a similar dose I dont really think there's grounds to be upset over it you will just have to wait and see if she speaks to you or not. I also don't understand why you wouldn't want to get back in contact with someone who affected your MH.

Also it's actually makes it look like to the sender message hasn't delivered until the other person pressed accept request.

It doesn’t sound like she’s an asset to your life OP. I would just do the meet up today and keep it very casual unless she specifically asks you about it. I have one friend who suffers from anxiety and paranoia as part of a MH problem. She’s often stepping away from social media and/or cancelling meet ups or getting cross about a perceived slight. I know another mutual friend finds her actions annoying but I honestly let it all go over my head as it’s not personal. It’s easy to make everything about ‘you’ when very often it’s nothing of the sort. If she wants to take offence about you stepping away from social media for some head space then she’s not a good friend.

I agree with Cheeky. Its a bit rich to complain about her when she has only followed your lead. Tbh it doesnt sound like you want her in your life anyway. Just do the adult thing and slag each other off in private.

I'm not really complaining about it. I'm a little upset, but confused and amused mostly.

It's going to be impossible to walk away, our DCs are in the same class at a tiny local school and she is, geographically, one of my closest neighbours. I dont want to be close friends again. DH has made it very clear that she is not welcome in our house. However our DCs are friends and I would like to be friendly with her. I get that she may no longer want to be friends with me, and I'm not hugely fussed about that. But I was hoping that she wasn't going to make life awkward for me.

From what I understand she hasn't blocked you she's just unfriendled you. If you can still see her posts via other friends being tagged in fb you are not blocked.

Act as if you know none of this tomorrow, Facebook "friendship" is a law into itself.

People have requested me as a friend and then not said hello when passing me in the street and others have unfriended me in fb and then acted like my best mate when I bump into them 😂

All this drama over a month? You feel it's fine to ignore her messages, but if she blocks yours it's mind games? You are way over-thinking this and making a drama where there isn't one.

happiness party is this afternoon, I'm definitely going to act like I don't know and just be pleasant

That happened to me. I think it is because the person has blocked you.

Well I was point blank ignored the entire time.

Sorry to learn she ignored you the entire time - would have been nice if she could have been a grown up for a while but hey, at least she can't cause anymore issues now.