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Partners been horrible what do I do

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Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 17:50

Partner and I been having some issues lately he’s working hard long hours I’ve just got a new job and we’ve both just brought our first house. Haven’t spent a lot of time together recently but partner and I had a long chat this week and both agreed to make some time for each other and work on our separate issues. He agreed to go to dinner on Friday night. This morning he mentioned he might not feel up to it because he was leaving at 7 to go collect something. I had agreed to go meet him after and do some shopping while he was busy. I felt this was ok as we would spend some time together get some lunch maybe. When he arrived he and I went into a few shops I asked if I could try on this bra and would he mind waiting. I was gone 15 mins due to sales lady going to get me some different sizes. When I came out he threw a huge strop said he wanted to go home that he didn’t think I would take 15 mins and make him wait for me. Weve since got home and he’s mentioned after work drinks I’ve said he can go but was a bit huffy he’s been out to the pub 3 nights this week. He was supposedly to tired to go for dinner. We’ve had a massive row I’ve said how come you have time for mates and not for me. why don’t you make an effort with me didn’t even get me a birthday card or gift he’s shouted back I kept telling him to leave so I could be on my own. He’s then shouted I’ve ruined his night and he didn’t want to go now he’s thrown his keys at the wall broke the key ring walls all marked and then blamed me for him doing it apparently I stresss him out. He kept saying at the beginning that I was annoyed he was going out and I just kept saying I am annoyed but I don’t want to cause an argument so just go.

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Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 17:50

I feel like this is it I don’t no what to do I won’t tolerate this behaviour I will move back to my mums if I have to.

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HollyGibney · 24/08/2018 17:51

I think he's having an affair tbh.

ProperLavs · 24/08/2018 17:53

His shouty rant behaviour is out of order, but I would be well pissed off if I was with you and you made me wait 15 mins whilst trying on a bras. How is that pending time together?

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gandalf456 · 24/08/2018 18:02

He's a cock and being a baby about the bra

RabbitsAreTasty · 24/08/2018 18:03

You wanted to make time for each other but you went to the shops instead. That's a crap date. Who had that idea?

Key throwing, blaming you, all v v bad.

Why didn't you just go for drinks with him?

That said he doesn't sound like a keeper.

supercalifragilistic2 · 24/08/2018 18:07

You've asked to spend time with him, then spent 15 minutes trying on a bra. Defeats the point of spending time together TBF.
However, throwing keys and then blaming you.... LTB, what happens next time you 'stress him out'.

Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 18:12

For context he said to meet at 12.30 and was half hour wait so I ended up waiting. I was only meant to be 5 mins I thought I was only 5 mins he claims I was 15. The shopping trip was away of spending time together I got an hour train just to try and catch some time with him but as soon as he got there he moped from the start

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NorthernSpirit · 24/08/2018 18:14

You wanted to spend some time together so you drag him round the shops (the majority of men hate shopping) and then you make him wait 15 mins while you try something on. Sounds like time for you, not both of you as a couple.

Then when you get home ‘you say he can go’..... how nice of you to ‘allow’ him.

You two don’t sound suited.

Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 18:39

He asked if he could go and he suggested shopping to I wanted to get lunch instead and he said why don’t we look in this shop and that shop his eyes lit up when I mentioned underwear

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Idontbelieveinthemoon · 24/08/2018 18:42

he’s thrown his keys at the wall broke the key ring walls all marked and then blamed me for him doing it apparently I stresss him out.

Does he throw things at people he works with then shout at them? If not, he's in total control of himself and choosing to be a cunt. He's showing you with every action how he feels about you and how low you are on his list of priorities. Walk away from him for your own safety and wellbeing.

Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 18:47

I’m off to my mums tomorrow watching a film currently with some food

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maxthemartian · 24/08/2018 18:50

This sounds bloody exhausting. Relationships shouldn't be like this, it's not worth it if they are.
I don't think that waiting a few minutes while someone tries something on is a big deal.

Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 18:52

He’s just been so distant I know there’s no one else I’m with him most the time but he’s just working or moping about saying how stressed he is

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BackforGood · 24/08/2018 18:52

What Proper, Rabbits and Supercali all said.

Not sure how Holy's mind works though - bit of a leap that Hmm

Paddy41 · 24/08/2018 19:08

I couldn’t of joined his drinks there at his office all work mates and held at work

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