Confidentiality and school 😡

[outedbeforewevestarted]

DD was chosen to do something official. The organisers asked us to keep it confidential with very good reason. Sorry can’t say more than that. We had to let school know last term because DD needed a day off. Organisers were ok with this and gave us an official letter to confirm. Head knew, class teacher knew. That is it. We have not even told family (MIL is a gossip).

I have just been told exactly what is is happening by someone in the local shop. We live in a small place, that means loads of people will know.

Someone from school has gossiped basically. 😡

Now presumably I have to inform the organisers??? If this has changed things I’ll be furious. The head was all “so good for the school as well” when we met even though school is not involved it is something DD does by herself.

Where do I take it from here?

Unless you can prove who gossiped there probably isn’t very much you can do officially. Also unless it’s a state secret I can’t imagine what would be so precious that the organisers would back out because people now know what’s happening.

MynameisJune I hope so. It’s a security and press thing but not until October so time to cancel if it’s a problem I expect ☹️

If you are absolutley sure it came from the school I'd raise it with the head but I don't expect them to do alot if you can't identify the individual. It's till worth it though as they might give a general chat. TBH, schools and confidentiality have never been a good mix in IME. I'd only tell the organisers if I had to but only you will know that.

Go and speak to the head. Say nothing to the organisation.

Not sure if head is available until next week when term starts so might just sit on the knowledge at the moment.

So annoyed.

I didn’t even know what to say in the shop, I should have asked where they had heard. Will ask tomorrow.

Is there the slightest possibility that your daughter was so excited about the ‘thing’ that she told a friend in confidence? However unlikely that might be, I think you need to explore that angle because the head will no doubt ask the same question.

Knittedfairies I asked, so had to tell her what I’d heard, and no, daughter is devastated. She didn’t even want school to know because she was there when the organisers drummed it into the parents that we had to keep quiet. I can’t explain how much of a dream come true this is for her and she would never have jeopardised it.

I am hoping it’s more of a “Don't sell your story to the DM or you’re out” thing than a bit of village gossip. Wondering whether I should deny it but that opens a can of worms later down the road...

Deny it in the village I mean, not to the officials 😱