I’ve been with DH for 7 years, I’m 28 and he’s a little older.
Initially when we talked about kids it was a distant future thing, and it’s still not immediately on my mind.
He said he wanted 2
I said I wanted 1
He said he wouldn’t at all unless I committed to 2 (assuming everything was ok medically, financially etc)
We dropped it for a while, and didn’t talk about it again, I worked on myself and decided that I want 2 if it was what DH wanted.
Time went on, we bought a house, have lived life etc
A friend ask DH about kids and he said none at all, I said what happened to 2, he said none at all.
(Once it was just us) I bawled my freaking eyes out, my hormones were firing and I suddenly felt like I needed to Un-want these children that I had spent years building up to wanting because he wanted them.
We dropped it again but it’s bugging me.
His reasons are finance and travel - I’ve suggested several ways he (and we) can improve our finances, he hasn’t taken them onboard at all. We’re not poor but we’re not rich. In terms of travel I’ve asked where is on his bucket list that he wants to see - “oh, no where really”
I’m concerned that over the 7 years children (or a child) has become a deal breaker for me. I don’t want to be without my DH, but I want him to be happy - which might make me unhappy....
No rush, I’d like to try ttc in 2 years (a good time financially, our age, security etc)