I need a life overhaul

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I feel like life is passing me by a bit.

I suppose I am just posting wanting for some advice and suggestions, hobbies and interests and ways to make new friends and maybe even a partner, I don’t know

what would you like to do?

Um good question

I suppose just feel like I’m living a bit more if that makes sense. If I didn’t work it would almost be like I didn’t exist.

What did you enjoy doing before you worked? What type of activity do you choose when on holiday?

Before I worked? I’m in my 30s I’ve worked for a long time!

I began a hobby in my village, after having lived here working full time, and working part-time with dc.

It was a large group hobby, and one of the benefits, which I hadn't expected (other than enjoyment, practising a skill etc) was that I began to make a lot of new friends in my immediate locality. Which meant I had more friends to meet for coffee or pop in on, but also saw more people while out walking or in the local shop.

For some people I am sure that would be a nightmare but for me it made me feel much more settled and part of my community and it has led to some great opportunities and strong, long-term friendships with people who I recognise but didn't actually know.

Does that sound ok, or a nightmare for you? Is there anything like that near you?

The effects, I suppose were exponential, is what I am trying to say: small efforts had huge results.

*recognised

That sounds lovely

Even if if was a long time ago... e.g. art, drama, music dance, country walks....it might spark something? Many places have local meetup groups on different topics. You can dowload the app. Or check out eventbrite for local stuff. I don't know if is still going but I investigates joining Spice when I was single and without local friends. I didnt in the end cos of work and study and meeting my DH but it looked a nice way to do interesting activities and meet people.

I spontaneously agreed to do a charity 10k run at work, because i didnt know how far 10k was and i was trying to be welco ingto the new team member whos idea it was.

I did not run.. but suprisingly i do now! I have weekly runs with work people outside my normal job (so new gossip!), and did my first 5k without stopping!

I also rekindled my love of lego by indulging in some lovely sets, and started learning to play the keyboard.

Getting a dog also helped find myself a bit more.

Evening class
Book group
Volunteer
Join a charity about something important to you
Barn dancing!
Yoga
Book holiday in place you really want to go

I'm following this with interest OP, thank you for making this thread.

There is no joy in my life at the moment at all and I too need some ideas.

For me, finding a volunteering opportunity that makes use of my skillset made me feel more part of my community and that I am doing something valuable.