Can I do anything to build confidence/self esteem?

[Fekkit]

My lack of confidence in myself is really starting to piss me off. I am constantly doubting myself, over thinking things, dwelling on things. I have no confidence in my abilities despite evidence to the contrary (good performance reviews in my challenging job, a first class STEM degree, travelled extensively alone etc etc).

Relationship-wise I often end up with men who don't put the same amount of effort in as I do.

With friends I am nervous about taking up too much of their time.

I've been faking it, I like to think quite successfully. Externally I have a great job, a good group of friends, an adrenaline filled hobby... but I'd quite like to feel not-shit inside.

Is there anything you've done, any excercises or activities, which have improved your confidence and self-esteem. Honestly it's the biggest thing holding me back

Not much advice but there is a book called. 'Boosting self esteem for dummies' that I found had some useful ideas.

Therapy to get to the core of your self doubt. you need to love and respect yourself to have a healthy relationship I've now realised!
Lot's of great you tube videos on empaths/co dependency that really help to show the issue with putting people first and feeling inferior - makes us less confident.

Best of luck, op. I also have poor confidence and it's horrid.