How do i tackle this

[dustarr73]

I have just found out when we where away on holidays.My ds gf brought her sister in to my house to show her how dirty it is.

She was staying here at the time.
I opened my home to her after she had a row with her own mum.

My house is not dirty,its a bit squashed though.I has my other ds gf living here,who is pregnant.My younger 3 sons and my dp and myself.

Im just so hurt she could do that.Shes not here now cause she had a dog and it was weeing everywhere and we where worried the pregnant gf would slip on it.

I dont whether to say it to her on not.Im just so upset.

Grrr! No advice but angry on your behalf.

Did she bring her sister in before or after she was asked to leave?

@Icelollycraving it was before.She wasnt asked to leave just keep the dog under better control and not let it roam the house.

I’d tell her and your son that you are very hurt. I’d also point out that the cramped living space still found her space when she was out in her ear and that she should learn both gratitude and manners. You sound nicer than me though

Cheeky Mare!
You seem much too kind to me! You not only left CM stay at your house but her weeing puppy as well.

Tell her you're upset as you've heard what she did with her Ds, then.
Never let her stay again is what I would advise!

You sound like a lovely person and she sounds like a twat, don't worry it shines her in a worse light than it does you.

I grew up in a house with lots of people/pets and limited space.
It was always clean there just wasn't enough space for everything at once.

Don't let her get to you OP

If it was anyone else i could be outstraight.But im thinking of my son.I dont want to put him in an awkward position.

They are going away soon so i think i will leave it till they come back.I dont want to ruin my sons holiday.

And i agree it doesnt make her a very nice person.Wouldnt mind she only comes from the same sort of area.So her being snobby is laughable really.

I would be really upset too.

I think in a previous life I would have gone up the wall and back down the other side, made snarky comments etc etc but I think now I would just hold her at arms length instead. She knows what she did so the change in your behaviour should make her feel rather sheepish - the guilty need no one to out them.

Does she know you know? How do you know?

No she doesnt know i know.My other sons gf told me after she left yesterday.

It would be easy to prove if she brought her sister in.I have cctv.I could go back.

It all started over her dog.My son came in and said he wasnt happy about the dog having free rein.They had a few words.

Yesterday the gf with the dog went into their room and was aggressive.So my other son came in after her.

But she stood there like a victim and never said that she started it.So then she packed her stuff up and left.

Even thanking me for having her.
The pregnant gf then told me what she had done.i was gobsmacked and really hurt.

Well she doesn't get to come back in does she? With any luck, as with a lot of young relationships, it'll hopefully fizzle out. Just please for the love of Zeus, tell your son to wrap it up! You don't want this awful, rude, bad mannered little madam to be a permanent member of your family via grandchildren!

I have decided to say nothing for now.As i said he has a holiday booked to go away with her.
And hes 23 and she is a few years older.So i really cant tell what to do.

But i will be having a word when he comes back.