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would you rather your dc get bullied or be the bully?

10 replies

hostagecurl · 24/08/2018 00:14

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NeepNeepNeep · 24/08/2018 00:15

Neither.

firehousedog1 · 24/08/2018 00:17

Mmm dunno. I hate to say but probably the bully. Least you can correct that wrong doing whereas being bullied can stay with someone forever.

DramaAlpaca · 24/08/2018 00:17

Well neither are acceptable, are they? Confused

GoldenWombat · 24/08/2018 00:18

Get bullied. I'd hope that I could help enable them to maintain their self-confidence by getting them to interact with different children from different groups and activities so their lives don't revolve around school. I hope this would mitigate the effects of the bullying.

Kids tried to bully me at my school, but it didn't really work - I had out-of-school friends who I valued more. Used to rile up the bullies by giving sarcastic quips back. There's nothing more pathetic than a bully in my eyes.

CazzieCatsRock · 24/08/2018 00:21

What a weird question!?! Absolutely neither. Confused

1happyhippie · 24/08/2018 00:22

?? How strange.

Neither

Rebecca36 · 24/08/2018 00:24

Neither! I would be horrified if my child was bullied or was a bully.

IsThisSomeKindOfJokeHere · 24/08/2018 00:25

This is a worry I have, having been bullied at school when I was a child. I've always said if I ever get a call to say DD had been bullying someone, id be mortified, disappointed, and furious. Before I had kids I said I would bully my child as sort of an "eye for an eye" so they knew what it felt like. Not sure that would be my chosen route now! Though my child's home life would be boring and miserable until they corrected their behaviour, and I'd embarrass her every time she was out 😂 Mum of the year 😂

I think it's harder when you have a child who is bullied though, you can't control that, or other children's behaviour towards your child! A situation I hope to never be in. I hope my child isn't a bully and I hope my child is never bullied. I believe it's all in the parenting. You teach your children the correct way to treat people, and hope they always keep that in mind.

Racecardriver · 24/08/2018 00:32

Getting bullied is an excellent opportunity for self development. I would hope that my children will be just as assertive, self confident and mouthy as I am. If not, we'll they will have to learn to stand up for themselves I suppose. Being a bully on the other hand,there is a risk that they just are and will always be a vile person.

PickAChew · 24/08/2018 00:37

I'd rather the bullying didn't happen at all.

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