Can you only be as happy as your unhappiest child?

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Howbteue is this? Especially in relation to adult children.

How true

Very true.

I've always said this. It's absolutely true.

Kris Jenner said this on the Kardashians the other day. So it must be true.

How depressing

I disagree. DD suffers greatly from time to time with crippling depression and anxiety, but I am not as unhappy as her ,(luckily for both her and me). If I were I wouldn't be of any help to her, nor would I be able to celebrate my other DC's achievements.

This is not to say I'm not sympathetic to her situation, but she is sometimes so unhappy she doesn't want to live. I've never been that low.

I hate that my life and mental wellbeing is so tightly linked to my DD 's happiness . Her life isn't going well atm ( hasn't really been settled for years tbh) and it affects me dreadfully. I wish I could detach but I can't .

Judge Judy how do manage to separate yourself from your daughters feelings? How do you manage not to get swamped by anxiety and depression yourself? I would love to know!

Oddcat- I know how you feel

Oddcat, I know how you feel too.

adult children? no, I don't think its true.

Nope. I rarely see my DB but I'm 100% sure that he, DSis and I are much happier than DF.

This method doesn't apply in our household.

Ds and dd are very different characters. Ds has AS and is a terrible worrier. Dd is a chatty and charismatic child, I'm naturally very optimistic.
Dp is a bit miserable.

I'm the one who is positive as I think it sets a good example to the dc, I try and see the good in people and the best in situations.
Any frustrations I have I tend to keep to myself but can totally see how others moods can rub off on people.

if the adult children dont live at home? I guess you can be concerned about them