How to ask for this money?

[WilburIsSomePig]

I hate this. I asked my two closest friends if they wanted to go to an event later in the year. Both said yes and the tickets were selling fast so I said I would get the tickets so we were all sitting together. We do this quite a lot. This was 7 weeks ago and one of them transferred the money within the week but I'm still waiting for the other money.

She hasn't forgotten as she says every time that I see her that she needs to transfer the money (and I say 'fab, I'm skint so that would be great'), but hasn't. I hate asking as it sounds like I'm hassling her for it and she's got so much shit going on just now. But it's £150 and I need the money.

How do I ask politely?

'Hi just wondering when you were going to transfer for the money for X? I'm low on cash this week so need it'

Send the text above, or a more direct ‘can you transfer ticket money today please? Bank details are xxx’.

You shouldn’t be the one feeling awkward about this.

You shouldn’t be the one feeling awkward about this.

I know I shouldn't, I really hate being put in the position of having to ask. So embarrassing.

Ask her when she's planning on doing it. In the future don't offer to be the one doing the whole transaction - this sort of thing causes all manner of untold grief.

Just tell her that you need the money as soon as possible. The cheeky cow has had 7 weeks to pay you!

“Hiya xxx, any chance you can transfer the money for the xxx ticket today? Bank details are xxx thanks so much!”

If it she doesn’t pay up suggest you sell her ticket - simple :)

I've had this a few times. I've gone with saying "Hey, have you sent the money for X yet? Just I can't see it and wanted to double check you had the correct bank details"

Not at all embarrassing to ask for money owed to you.
She should be extremely embarrassed that she's not paid and you're having to chase her ... again.

People like this do it on purpose because they know you wont ask.

"Hiya, sorry about this, but I'm selling your ticket tomorrow as you haven't paid for it and I really need the money. Hope you manage to catch the band some other time." That's all it needs. Oh, and if she comes back with "I thought we were friends" the reply to that is "friends don't leech, have a nice life". DD is very good at this sort of thing: when they moved she sold a lot of stuff. Two people didn't pay, so I went round and got the items back, and then she blanked them.

Ooh I hate this, it makes me so angry. Go with a very direct text ‘Could you please transfer £150 today into xxx, otherwise (made up name) wishes to buy it’

Hi Jane just checking you still want to go to X? It’s been a few weeks and you haven’t paid me the money for the tickets, I’m a bit skint so need the money really and didn’t want to keep on asking for it if you’re having second thoughts or skint like me lol.
Anyway let me know - it’s no problem if you’ve changed your mind or can’t afford it as Sue from work really wants to go (or similar) and has offered to buy the ticket from me.
Obviously that would work out great if you’re worried about the money or telling me you can’t go.
So if I don’t hear from you by Friday I’ll sell her your ticket.
Cheers

Yes send her the text letting her know someone is interested and that you’ll sell the ticket if she doesn’t deposit the money

Yes. Sell the ticket.

Phone her rather than text. You need the money ASAP as you’re skint. CF.

If you say you're going to sell the ticket she might say go ahead which means a load of hassle for you and it might not sell anyway. I wouldn't give her the option, if she doesn't want to go she should sell the ticket! I'd go with sending a text asking her to transfer the money today, here's the bank details. That's it. Shows you mean business.

I had a flat mate that took the piss massively and this is what worked on him. I don't think he intended to avoid paying, he was just really flakey and needed a firm hand!

Thanks for the suggestions.

I rang her twice last night but she didn't pick up. My other friend who is going has just messaged our WhatsApp group saying 'Wilbur, remind me if I've paid for these tickets, I can't get online to check for now but I'd hate for you to be waiting for me to cough up!' (I didn't ask her to do that - shes's just messaged me to say she thought it might prompt her).

I suppose it gives me the chance to say yes you have oh and can you transfer the money Friend B to . I'm really not good at this, I'm a pathetic people pleaser and I hate conflict.

Good on your friend. Now pop onto WhatsApp and prompt the non payer

I've done that now. Friend B saw the message about half an hour ago but hasn't responded yet!

She’s not going to give you the money.

It sounds like she's dodging you. She should be bloody ashamed of herself! If she was skint she shouldn't have accepted the ticket.

I rarely owe anyone money because I hate it but the longest I've ever made anyone wait was three weeks, per an agreement. What a scrounger your friend is.

Name and shame!

Why don’t you reply to your paying friend saying,
“yes I’ve just checked, you did pay, friend B hasnt yet and is still in arrears! Cough up friend B, or you won’t be coming.. So looking forward to the event!”

Honestly I’d say “can you transfer that money by tonight or I’ll have to sell the ticket this weekend, I’m really low on cash”

I've stuck a message on there to say 'Yes, thanks A you transferred it a month ago. B, can you transfer today please, I really need the dosh! If you've changed your mind then that's fine, just let me know. If I don't hear from you by tomorrow I'll assume you don't want the ticket and sell it on. See you soon. x'. She's read it but not relied.

dont think your going to see themoney off her op. out of intrest what band is it? x