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New Man & shaved pubes

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tucsontutu · 23/08/2018 11:04

Light-hearted!

I have been seeing new man for a few months and now we are regularly sleeping together. Things are going very well I think, and it looks like this is slowly but steadily progressing into a relationship!

The thing is, he shaves his pubes off. All of them. It looks a bit ridiculous because he is relatively hairy everywhere else, and I really don’t like it much! Would it be ok for me to say something about it? But then again I think I wouldn’t appreciate it if he commented on my grooming down there and asked me to do things differently, so maybe I shouldn’t say a word about it?

I guess it is a case of “his body his choice”, but it really looks like a skinned chicken

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Whatuip · 23/08/2018 11:15

My exBF used to shave all his pubic hair off. I hated it!

user1493413286 · 23/08/2018 11:19

Could you say something like “I love a bit of hair there” etc in the moment and see if he takes the hint. If he says I like it like that then not much then to say. I think it’s pretty normal to be a bit groomed there for men now

pinkmagic1 · 23/08/2018 11:20

What nationality/religion is he? Normal in some cultures and religions.

MagicMix · 23/08/2018 11:20

I would somewhat doubt that this man is shaving because he enjoys it for himself. It is probably an attempt to be attractive to you (and might do it for some women, I suppose, perhaps some of his exes). Just leave it alone and it'll probably taper off naturally as the relationship becomes more comfortable. If you do mention it, do it like 'You know you don't have to bother with that for my sake, don't you?' rather than 'Could you stop shaving because I don't like it'.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/08/2018 11:23

Double standards isn’t it. If this was a thread “my boyfriend has said he’d prefer me if I was hairless / hairy” it would be 100% LTBs

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tucsontutu · 23/08/2018 11:26

Double standards isn’t it. If this was a thread “my boyfriend has said he’d prefer me if I was hairless / hairy” it would be 100% LTBs

I know, and that is why I am thinking whether it is appropriate for me to say something or not!

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Westworldmaeve · 23/08/2018 11:30

My DH shaves his pubes and is a hairy monkey everywhere else . I told him once that I don't mind pubes one way or the other and he told me he likes them shaved because he finds pubic hair a bit itchy. Weird but hey, if he's happy, I'm happy.

RavenLG · 23/08/2018 11:33

I had to do this with DP when we first met.

I just asked “how come you shave?” He said because he thought it was tider, he asked if I liked he, I said not really it’s a bit weird. He stopped shaving. I stopped picturing a chicken drumstick in his pants, win win.

Racecardriver · 23/08/2018 11:36

Red flag op. Normal men don't do this. He's probably a porn watcher. But it would be totally out of order for you to say something unless you decided to stop seeing him over it and he asked why I suppose.

Incarnationsofunderstanding · 23/08/2018 11:36

I think if it’s relationship stage you should be comfortable to simply ask why as it’s not the norm. His choice though.

A very odd Tinder date told me he liked his shaved as he can feel it rubbing against his trousers while in the office (near female staff I presume)

ShirleyPhallus · 23/08/2018 11:38

Red flag op. Normal men don't do this. He's probably a porn watcher.

AH HA HA! classic mumsnet!

GreenandBlueButterfly · 23/08/2018 11:43

Red flag op. Normal men don't do this. He's probably a porn watcher.
What a ridiculous assumption!!

For what's worth it, my DP shaves as well but not all the time. I do like it. If you don't like it, ask him about his reasons and let him know you don't mind either way. Chances are he might stop shaving then.

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tucsontutu · 23/08/2018 11:44

Red flag op. Normal men don't do this. He's probably a porn watcher.

Isn't this a bit OTT? I am also not fussed by a man who watches porn, unless there is a proper addiction of course.

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Hogtini · 23/08/2018 11:45

Red flag? WTF?!
Perhaps he just feels a bit tidier this way - same as some women do. As you say, personal choice. I don't see the problem, it's not like it's in your face 24/7 and as long as it does the job!

girlwhowearsglasses · 23/08/2018 11:48

Gosh - what happened to 'conversations'? You: "wondering if there's a reason you shave your pubes?" Him: "answers"
......

SeekingClosure · 23/08/2018 11:49

Maybe he shaves to make his cock look bigger?

I would just casually mention to him that you don't mind pubes and he doesn't have to shave for you, then leave it up to him. Maybe compliment him on his hairiness elsewhere?

kaytee87 · 23/08/2018 11:50

@Racecardriver it's perfectly normal in a lot of cultures and not linked to excessive porn use.

Op maybe just ask him why he does it and if he says something about women liking it then say you don't mind if he doesn't. If he says he prefers it that way / his culture then just leave it alone I'd say.

Bluntness100 · 23/08/2018 11:50

Red flag op. Normal men don't do this. He's probably a porn watcher

Bwahahaha,,,🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Racecardriver · 23/08/2018 11:52

@kaytee the thread is light hearted, read the OP

Racecardriver · 23/08/2018 11:53

Although I have never heard of any cultures where men remove pubes, cutting hits of penises yes but, apart from western porn culture, I can't think of any cultures when men remove pubes.

Bluntness100 · 23/08/2018 11:54

How much western porn are you watching then, you seem very knowledgeable 🤣

firehousedog1 · 23/08/2018 11:57

Yep he doing it to make his dick look bigger

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tucsontutu · 23/08/2018 12:52

He is German.

Not sure if German men routinely shave off their pubes..? Can someone married to a German shed some light?

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flopsyrabbit1 · 23/08/2018 13:01

omg you sound unhinged and frankly oppressed

i prefer the male shaved and dont care if they watch porn

op like someone said if it was the other way there would be up roar

pinkmagic1 · 23/08/2018 20:54

Racecardriver, many Muslim people of both sexes remove bodily hair. Nothing weird or creepy and definitely not a red flag or porn related.

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