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Do you feel sorry for your youngest child ?

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LardLizard · 23/08/2018 10:50

I know I have a larger than average age gap
At 6 years
But I’m jus watching my children play and thinking how nice it is

Yet a thought has just struck me
That when my youngest is the same age as my eldest 11, she will be 17
So it will be like he’s on his own

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youarenot · 23/08/2018 11:02

No, his bigger brothers dote on him!

Mine are (just turned) 1, 4 and 7 thought. So 6 years between oldest and youngest but oldest is SN's and is a 'young' 7!

dreamingofsun · 23/08/2018 11:04

my oldest and youngest (5 year age gap) get on better than the oldest and middle one

Tidythatmess · 23/08/2018 11:05

Sometimes when I see his older siblings playing and he's just watching them...he is 2 and they are 6 and 8. DH says it's no reason to have another though as they do love him and play around with him.

Yellowcar107 · 23/08/2018 11:12

A big age gap is nice, there is 3 years between my sister and I and 9 years between my brother and I.

My sister and I adored playing with him when he was younger. As we got older I have left home and started my own family he does need to entertain himself but my sister and him get along lovely. But he is mature for his age, he enjoys some time to himself as a teenager. I have him over my house a lot.

A big age gap doesn't mean they won't be friend or have fun together. My sister and I argued a hell a lot more than we ever did with our younger brother.

You have nothing to worry about, your youngest shall never be left out.

SheSparkles · 23/08/2018 11:15

I have a 5 year gap and with the eldest havin moved out now the youngest is now getting the “only child” treatment that his sister had for the first 5 years of his life as we’re a bit better off financially again. It balances out

Aw12345 · 23/08/2018 11:17

6 year age gap between me and my sister... We played loads together, and she is still pampered now!!!

Papergirl1968 · 23/08/2018 11:28

My sisters are nine and seven years older than me. It was fine till I was about nine but then they were off doing their own things, not coming on holiday or day trips etc, and it was just me trailing around after our parents, bored and lonely.
So that’s the downside of having a big age gap.

SleepFreeZone · 23/08/2018 11:30

Errrm no. I was the youngest of two and I had a rare old time. Personally I feel sorry for the eldest.

GoldenHoops · 23/08/2018 12:34

Not in the slightest , he has everyone including the dogs at his beck and call😃
Ds1 is 19, ds3 is 10, Dd is 10, ds 4 is 6 and his highness is 2.

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LardLizard · 23/08/2018 15:47

Thanks feel better now, just having a silly wobble !

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LardLizard · 23/08/2018 15:48

I was the youngest too and I did get to take a friend to quite a lot of things which Worked well

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HolyMountain · 23/08/2018 16:03

Ds3-18 has the life of Riley.

His two older brothers are away , he has the run of the car, has the sofa all to himself to lie on at night and gets treated to Champion League matches with Dh because he’s the only one at home.

No wonder he didn’t want to go to university —only half joking—

Welliejellie · 23/08/2018 17:08

My 8year old and 21 year old are currently playing Lego together. Not sure who is enjoying it more!

Yes I do feel sorry as alot of the time he is like an only child has to play on his own or with me. But ds1 was the same.

pallisers · 23/08/2018 17:18

I kind of know what you mean. I have 3 with 5 years between eldest and youngest. I feel like the youngest one got hustled out of things like visits to children's museum/zoo/etc as we moved on to more older child things with the elder one.

I don't feel sorry for her though - she has a blast.

twofloorsup · 23/08/2018 17:27

Not at all. There's 10 years between my eldest and youngest (with more in kids between) and at 14 she thinks her 24 year old brother is the coolest person on the planet !

CherryPlum · 23/08/2018 17:38

My two are close in age but very different personalities, they argue almost continually.

gabsdot · 23/08/2018 17:44

I'm the eldest in my family and 12 years older than the youngest. He had a very different upbringing to me. e.g. when I was 16 Santa still came to our house. When he was 16 all his older siblings had left home and he was an uncle.
However it wasn't better or worse for him just different plus we all adore him and dote on him. He's our pet and everyone's favourite, (he's 36)

Moonflower12 · 23/08/2018 17:50

There is a 16 year age gap between our youngest and her next sibling. She is more or less an only child- but fired on by her big siblings. They have all left home.

Moonflower12 · 23/08/2018 17:51

Doted not fired!!!!

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 23/08/2018 18:38

My siblings are older than me by quite a way. There's 5 years between my DC and I love their age gap; it's enough for them to have had lots of time with us so (I think) less potential for jealousy and it's still close enough for them to play together and get on.

I think having siblings close in age can be a double-edged sword for some children. Mine have definitely benefitted from the gap.

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