Making up with my cousin

[Raella50]

I think both me and my cousin have been a bit selfish to be truthful - I’d like to make up with her but not sure what to do?

Basically, I’m organising my father’s birthday. We’re renting a big cottage for all the family to meet in over a weekend (we are split up all over the U.K.). He’s very excited about it and wants us all to be there. The problem initially was that nobody seemed to want to compromise on exact dates/ where the cottage is/ how much to spend on it. I’m on maternity leave so the organisation was left to me as I’m apparently the least busy (ha!!!).

Anyway, I eventually found a cottage that seemed to please the vast majority with the correct rooms except that one of the double rooms is a singe room. Everyone is coming in couples/ with children except for my one single cousin. This is the issue - she refuses to take the single room and has called me selfish for wanting to “force” her into taki it. I haven’t forced her at all, but I have pointed out that if she won’t sleep in the sing me room, we have to find another house again and I can’t see anything suitable for everyone. She is welcome to finding one thing better if she can (she says that’s rude to say to her).

I do feel bad because she’s quite newly single and clearly is uncomfortable being in a single room and I don’t want to upset her!! I’m honestly at the end of my tether though.

Would you cancel the cottage? Would you mov everyone else somewhere less suitable distance wise? Would you keep the cottage and tell her the room is there if she wants?

Keep the cottage and tell to either accept it or not go.

As the cottage booking is for your df's benefit not hers she can like it or lump it imo.
Has it not got a nice dark cellar you can blow up a double air bed for her?

I know it's a nightmare organising a trip for a group of adults so well done for finding somewhere suitable. She is one person so only needs one bed. I could understand her being miffed about being the only couple getting a twin room if she had a partner but not this.

Keep this booking and explain that she either comes or she doesn't but you haven't found anything else that works. If a double bed is so important to her suggest she finds a hotel close by and she can go and sleep there.

Do not change it. She is being ridiculous

You are not being selfish in any way! It can be a pain when organising for a large group, and theres always someone who's not 100% happy, but tough! She's the only person on her own so of course she gets the single room, it sucks for her that shes now single and will be seeing other couples at this event, but this is not about her, its about your df!

Stand your ground, shes single so goes in the single room, if she throws a tantrum, let her, even if she tries emotional blackmail by saying she wont come, giving in to her entitled behaviour will make her worse, about time she learned the world don't revolve around her