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Am I being paranoid about mother in law or should I go with my gut?

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Jade112233 · 21/08/2018 22:16

I’ve been with my partner for 5 years, we’re in a lesbian relationship and I get the feeling my partners Mom either doesn’t like me or doesn’t agree, she’s never commented on our relationship she’s never said she doesn’t agree but she hasn’t said she is happy either?
I also feel she doesn’t refer to us as a couple or acknowledge our relationship.
I don’t know if I’m over sensetive my partner says her parents love me, but I don’t feel her Mom does. It’s strange because we’ve never had cross words and we do get on but I just get the feeling she just tolerates me?
I find it so hard as my partners brothers girlfriend seems to be preferred over me and treated more like family yet she’s nasty to the brother, nasty to the family, she causes a lot of trouble and they split up as much as they are together but my mother in law seems to be up her arse she will do anything for her.
It’s so confusing as I go out my way to help her, I try my best to be good to her, I invite her for dinner, include her in things we do, think of her when we’re shopping etc but I still don’t feel as though I’m truly liked?
Recently she had a family photo album printed off her phone too, and as she was showing us I noticed me and my partner aren’t in there? There’s photos of my partner on her own or when she was younger but there’s no photos of us together... and there’s photos of her brother with his girlfriend this just made my suspicions raise..
My partner said it’s probably cause she has no photos of us, but surely it wouldn’t hurt to of found one of us?

Am I being paranoid?

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Rebecca36 · 21/08/2018 22:54

I don't know Jade. I'd have to actually know your mother in law to work that out.

Maybe she is 'old school' and trying to adjust? Good for her for trying, she will get there!

Give her time. If you still feel the same way in a few months it would help if you could talk to her and ask her gently if she has a problem with you. Sometimes plain speaking is the best way.

Jade112233 · 22/08/2018 16:58

It’s just hard as we’ve been together ‘officially’ for 5 years, seeing each other for longer, we live together it seems like it should be enough time.
And in a way deep down I don’t think I mind if she is happy about it or not, I just wish she would make it clear. I don’t know if confronting her would be a bad idea though. I just wish I felt like she treated me like family

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