I am looking for some advice about a slightly complicated family situation. My DS is six and I'm separated from his dad, things are amicable and he is very much involved in DS' life but I have some concerns about his abilities as a parent. The reason we're no longer together is because he has a lot of autistic-type tendencies and eventually I couldn't cope with the communication difficulties, rigidity and the absence of common sense and emotional intelligence, etc.
DS frequently doesn't want to go and stay with his dad and I can see quite a few issues there. It's not quite at the 'child protection' level but there are some things that are a bit concerning, and generally I feel that he (DS' dad) often doesn't interact well, doesn't quite get 'play' and can be very careless about practical details like warm enough clothing etc. He has many good qualities too and nothing but good intentions but it makes me sad and worried to see their bond is so strained, DS feeling unsettled etc.
I've spoken to him about my concerns, he's never had any diagnosis but he accepts that he struggles in some ways and I know he would be open to having some support and information on parenting, I'm just not sure what is available. I also think with the separation and the difficulties in co-parenting, DS may benefit from having help making sense of things. DS also has some autistic and ADHD behaviours which we are currently having assessed, and which can make him more challenging. I just want to do what's right for him and I feel a bit lost atm. I'd be happy to attend some sort of family therapy or anything helpful and practical really I just don't know where to start looking.
Help please!