Feeling overwhelmed

[Mumshotel]

I'm a temp and this week I've been finished up after nearly a year. Ive been asking my boss for weeks for info so i can look for a new job but she clearly couldn't be arsed chasing it up. So next week I have no job. DD being investigated for early pubity at 6, worried sick and not sleeping. I can't bear her to have to deal with this. I know its superficial but I had to get an extortionate loan to buy a car last week and this week both my Hoover and fridge broke. I have no money to replace. Feel like drinking gin and taking my kids to live in a hippy commune. I'm so fed up and don't have the energy to fix it all.

Sounds like a really difficult week for you. Fingers crossed some further work quickly comes your way.

Sorry I can't be more helpful. Have you looked on local sites for free or low cost replacement items. I know if you have no money that isnt helpful.

Hope the situation is only temporary for you.

Thank you eve. I'm going to get on e bay and pre loved etc tomorrow. Might have to wait a couple of weeks as need to get delivery man too. Oh why does the shit got the fan all at once.

Always the way. Hope it passes quickly. The thing about difficult times is you know it will pass. Hang in there.

Oh bless you- it never rains ...

Re the question of early puberty, my DD was investigated from 5.5-6.5 (took a full year for all tests etc) as she had started with pimples, sweatiness and underarm hair and had also grown exponentially: her bone growth age was advanced by 2.5 years! BUT after a huge number of appointments and tests, the paediatric endocrinologist established that it's premature adrenarche and not puberty. It's being monitored but we decided with DD to remove her underarm hair as she was self-conscious about it and she uses a gentle aluminium free deodorant daily. She's 7 now and we're just taking things as they come. Please try not to worry although it's hard not to!

I wish you well on this and for all of the other things that you're dealing with just now. This will pass!

Ive been asking my boss for weeks for info so i can look for a new job but she clearly couldn't be arsed chasing it up

It's not necessarily her responsibility to get you a job unless she wants you to stay. Sorry, but it's your responsibility - use another agent.

@BlueJava I think maybe @Mumshotel meant that she didn't know her temp contract was coming to an end or when it would end so didn't look for a subsequent job because the boss didn't give OP any advance indication that things were winding up.

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Re temp contract thats exactly what happened. I source my own jobs as agencies are useless in my experience but I wasn't given an indication of it ending despite lots of communication on my behalf. Anyway I'm hoping to pick up some responses to e nails and phone calls I made yesterday.

I also did a shout out on good old face book re fridge/Hoover to see if anyone was selling any. Friends mum is gettinh a new kitchen next week and will sell me a fridge freezer for £40. I'm so glad I asked.

Re the puberty thanks so much for sharing that. It sounds very similar. She has been reffered to an endocrinologist and had some blood and urine tests on Friday. She is really tall and pimples, hair where it shouldn't be etc. I'm hoping it turns out to be what you said and I'll do the same to help her. Shes a real sensitive soul and not very streetwise. Did you tell your daughter what was going on? I.e did you fully explain puberty/periods etc.

I told DD what she needed to know- hair and pimples and BO. Didn't go whole hog with periods as no need quite yet but have bought 'Hair in Funny Places' by Babette Cole which is a lovely book about puberty and I think at age 7 DD will now be ready.

Hang on in there OP- I faced similar overwhelm for the best part of 8 years wiry 3/4 different HUGE dramatic/difficult/frightening/life threatening things occurring simultaneously (around 8 big events in total) and it honestly made my life seem like a soap opera and also left me wobbly, exhausted and worried that I'd never feel okay again. But everything worked out in its own way and whilst life is never going to be perfect, it's okay.

OP I had precocious puberty - I started my period when I was 9. Was very tall for my age. It is linked with a medical condition I have so didn't undergo any tests etc but wanted to post to say, for me at least, it's not affected anything. I'm 31 now with a 4 year old little boy.

Nothing is worse when it all comes down on you at once. Try and take each day as it comes and remember to be kind to yourself.

Thank you so much for all your advice and sharing your stories. Randomly I got a call from the hospital today on my way to work to say they had a cancelkation and could she come in this afternoon. Of course i jumped at the offer. We've not long got in. They have ruled out precocious puberty from her first set of bloods and a full examination/consultation. They have diagnosed her with adrenarchy and have done a bone x ray today and more bloods but said it was just to rule out anything sinister but at present other than the adrenarchy there were no other symptoms to suggest anything particularly worrying and I agree with that. The hospital were great I can't praise them enough and dd seems to have dealt with it really well.
Thanks everyone. X

That's brilliant news @Mumshotel

A few spots and a bit of hair is fine- she'll be 'of age' soon enough. And I'm glad that one worry has now pretty much been resolved.