Tell me how you got over your broken hearts and are happy now?

[flyingsaucersherbet]

I have another thread, but for now, can you all tell me your stories of how it hurt but your life is better now?

I’ve had my heart broken before (ex left when I was pregnant 7 years ago) and so I KNOW I will be okay again this time, but still, it hurts. I need more evidence in my “it will definitely get better” drawer

Hi @flyingsaucersherbet !! I can't offer any good advice or evidence right now but just wanted to hop on board and offer a handhold. I'm also in the very raw post breakup phase and even though I KNOW it will be better in the long run I just can't feel it right now

You poor things It will get better I promise. Do lovely things for yourself and surround yourself with lovely people. Watch sad films and cry cry cry. Eat Jaffa cakes/ice cream/your carb of choice, and wear pyjamas all day if you want to.

If anyone tells you to get over it, bin them. You will get over it when you're ready, not because some knob tells you to.

I’m sorry to hear that nelly I’m trying to stay upbeat but it’s hard. Ex is on a flight right now with his ex wife to go on holiday with her

That said, When Ds dad left and I was pregnant, I was an absolute mess. It took me years to get better but I genuinely was so happy with Ds on my own. Life was good and i was content again. I know If I can achieve that then, in those circumstances, then I will get there again..... and if I can, so can you. We will get there

BTW I speak from experience, because you did say you wanted proof it's possible to be happy again

Meeting someone a million times better than the person who hurt me and experiencing love like never before.

My poison of choice pam..... I lost half a stone last week. Working to put that on again via the medium of sweets this week!

My abusive father broke my heart five years ago. I did a lot of therapy, re-newed my vows with dh and took a high dose of antidepressants.
I'm starting to come out the other side (very bad/suicidal depression,) but tbh there will always be a part of me that will forever be sad that he is not who I thought he was and never loved me. I'm just not sure the pain he caused will ever leave me. My dcs want to invent a machine that will erase it from my memory. But of course that would do no good as it will change who I am and leave my heart open for more people to hurt me.
So to summarise, you learn to live with the pain.

Excellent advice all round, I have chosen to spend the evening eating a family size box of fudge and watching the office re runs back to back