Weekend away

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PIL have booked a weekend away approx 4 hours away in a months' time. PIL, SIL and her bf, DH and I and DS (will be 13 months by then). Hotel for 2 nights, dinner and breakfast in the hotel. Cot in our room for DS.

DS is not too bad with sleep at home but whenever we have been away he is terrible overnight. Having said that he's been going through a really bad phase at the moment, takes a few hours to get him to sleep then he wakes up crying inconsolably and we have to settle him and put him back in his room. He won't settle in our bed even if we try.

I don't think the weekend has been very well planned for DS. I am not the sort of person who expects everything to revolve around my cold, but we have done this sort of thing with PIL before and it has always been hard work. For example, I will probably have to skip the dinner and stay in the room with DS for the evening because it will be too late for him to stay up and even if he did, it will be a fancy restaurant in the hotel which is not suitable for a toddler. Last time we did this when DS was a newborn he wasn't allowed in the restaurant, which was fair enough but PIL don't really seem to think these things through.

We had a bad night last night and DH and I were discussing how hard it will be with DS in the same hotel room as us. We have asked PIL about cancelling but because it's a Groupon deal they will loose all of then money.

Would you go, knowing it will most likely be a disaster with a grumpy toddler and no sleep? Or stay at home and PIL will have to loose the money?

Leaving DS at home with someone else isn't really an option because the whole point of the weekend is for us all to be together as we don't see SIL and her bf very often.

Forgot to add, I'm 5/6 weeks pregnant, feeing knackered and nauseous a lot of the time. Will be about 10 weeks by then so don't really want to tel them that's why I'm feeling crappy but won't have an excuse for not being on top form/ not drinking etc.

Why would they expect you to take a 13 month baby to a hotel for dinner? Obviously you would have to stay in the room all evening with the baby. Send your husband and you stay at home and chill with the baby!

Did they ask you and invite before they booked?
If not, I would decline the invite with good reason that your child is struggling with a sleep pattern at the moment and that takes priority.

If you have already accepted the invite, but have had second thoughts since, then can't you say one of you is now having to work or something? I reckon a good excuse is better than it not being child friendly enough... after you accepted the invite

I wouldn't go but as pp suggested maybe send DH. When mine were little we stayed in hotels a couple of times and tbh it was horrible. Having to sit in a dark room trying to get them to sleep but it being too early for us to sleep.

One trip we were meant to stay two nights and on the second day go to Drayton manor. DS hardly slept all night so we were all so tired we cancelled the hotel and went home.

At that age I would only have booked cottages with separate rooms - even if you shared a bed room you need a living area to get away from baby to allow them to sleep early enough.