It’s the first anniversary of my DB’s passing tomorrow... please make me feel less sad

[NooNooHead]

I am dreading the day of his anniversary tomorrow- a year since he passed away at 34 from bowel cancer. I can’t believe it is a year already. He was so brave a fought for so long.

34 - that is so young. I am so sorry. In my experience, the anticipation of sad anniversaries is sometimes worse than the day itself. How are you planning to spend the day?

All best wishes to you - it will very sad , it can't be otherwise, and best to know that. When my Dh's parents died , over time he had more funny & lovely memories than when they died. It will probably take time , but just get through tomorrow by hook or by crook - all best thoughts with you .

Thank you. 😘 I am going to the dentist so that will take my mind off things! I am sure it will be ok, I will try to remember him fondly and not as he was at the very end.

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Maybe it will help to "indulge" the sadness a bit. Rather than trying to keep busy all day, spend some time looking at photos of him and have a good cry if necessary?

It will be a tough day.

Your brother? I really am very sorry and sending all strength to get through it.

On the other hand, if he was a comedy genius/wanker as my brother is, please feel free to regale us with tales of the nonsensical and absurd.

I will be brave and try not to cry too much but I guess crying and feeling emotions is so very important when it comes to grief. I feel for my poor parents too.😥

Take some time for your memories lass

Yes, my brother. He was a bit of a character to say the least and gave my parents years of grief but he was loved all the same. I hope he is in a better place now having a party in the sky with his fellow DJs. 😎🤗🎧🎼

Fml if he was a dj, he's partying hard in some good company

Thank you. ✨ He is gone but not forgotten. And I have a beautiful baby DS who has his middle name after my DB so we will always remember him.

Mine has been gone for 14 years now and, in my experience it does get easier although sometimes a great wave of memory/nostalgia/grief still whacks you over the head. I would agree with other posters who say to try not to avoid the memories. Spend some time remembering or talking about him or listening to his favourite music. Difficult in the middle of your grief but, if you can, check on your parents too, they will probably find tomorrow tough too.