I live in the garden flat of a converted building with rubbish soundproofing. My neighbours are generally quite noisy, they have a terrible relationship and laminate flooring.
But, every couple of years they go off on holiday and leave their now 23 year old daughter on her own. When this happens she has horrendous all night parties at the weekend, last two times people have come to my door by mistake or had fights outside our window. My husband has always just let it go because we’ve lived here a long time and thinks a party every now and then is fine.
This week I realised they were away when the noise upstairs increased. Last night her music went on loud at 8 but went off at 10 when she went out. Today it went on at 5 and went off at 10.I just knew a party was on the cards and sure enough 2am the singing, music and multiple high heels starts. I went out and spoke to her friend who was out smoking and told her 5 hours was enough and to keep it down. They did for about 10 mins and have gradually been increasing the volume.
At about 2.30 a group of guys start hammering my door and trying the handle, my dh is way and it’s just me a 2 teens here tonight so I ignored it. Eventually, I got fed up with this and opened the door and told them I would be calling the police if it didn’t stop.
Neighbour then appears at my door to apologise and tell me it was only her cousin who is a nice boy, funny he doesn’t know where she’s been living for the past 20 years 🙄. I said I’m on my own how am I supposed to know this and apparently because my daughter plays a guitar in her room during the day and she doesn’t complain about that 😲. Plus, she’s just got a new job and is having a hard time so she should be able to make as much noise in her own home. I said it would have been courteous to mention you were having a party but because the car is gone she thought we weren’t in, but she did knock our door at 4.30 to tell us about the party and none of the three people who were in heard her 🤥. I didn’t point out that if you’re going to apologise you don’t start an argument.
She returned upstairs to her party who decided this was an outrage and they should make even more noise. I’ve just checked and the noise abatement team in my area finish at 3am. So, I’m not sure what to do, nothing has happened that warrants a police call out, but they seem a spiteful bunch who knows what could happen. Maybe I should have posted this in IABU, Is it acceptable to have a party if you live in a flat if you only do it once or twice a year?