How do people do this?!

[Potterfriends]

Go with such ease from one relationship to another? My best friend split with the man she was living with at Christmas. A month ago she met someone else and is very happy. It seems to happen all the time. My friends leave serious relationships and weeks/months later they’re in another one. I see it on Facebook all the time too, a split with one person then quickly into another relationship.

I, on the other hand, am coming up to having been single for 10 years . I’m 30, go out socialising several nights a week, golf, run, & have just started learning to horse ride, so I’m not just sitting in the house expecting a man to knock. I’ve had plenty of flings, but no relationship in 10 years.

How do people do it? What’s the secret?

It's because they are desperate, and will be with anyone so that they can say that they are in a relationship.

I’d hazard a guess you have higher standards.

Exactly sex

I think the pps are s bit harsh. Rebounding isn’t usually the best idea, no. But there are all sorts of reasons people do it.

Desperately unhappy in previous relationship and glad to have some fun/affection/good sex ...springs to mind..,

I’ve been happily married for 18 years, so no agenda, btw. Just an observation.

I was like this a a teen, I have very low self esteem and got little affection from my parents so sought it out elsewhere. It's actually pretty sad to not be able to be happy on your own, don't envy them OP. The fact that it's a reoccurring thing must mean these relationships aren't great to be in.

I think it’s just being desperate for someone to want them. Some people can’t seem to cope without a partner, I’ve a couple of female friends that can’t live without a man one relationship ends and they are on to the next!

I got together with my partner fairly quickly after a relationship ended. We were already friends and it just happened, I didn’t feel the need to say I was in a relationship or anything, we just realised we really liked each other.

I find relationships happen we you’re not looking.

When*

I’d like to believe the higher standards thing but some of my previous flings might ruin the theory .

I’ve always been happy enough single but I’m really starting to envy my friends when they’re talking about their lovely nights with their partners. Feeling a bit lonely.

I don’t have much trouble with attracting men, but they just want to have some fun with me before they meet and marry someone else.

I don't get it either. If I meet someone ok but what's the bloody rush to put yourself out there?

But how do they manage it? How do they just meet people like that? I cannot remember the last time I met a single man I was attracted to and vice versa, but somehow my friends are never short of them. I honestly wonder if I send out some sort of negative vibe.

Sex may be the thing.

In between the three LTRs I’ve had in my life I’ve pretty much always had men on the go for company and ‘other stuff’...and a couple of them became the LTRs/ my marriage.

Wouldn’t have dreamed of going public on social media, though, if it had existed .

Not sure about the ‘how’. Life seems to have moved on hugely since I was young (41). I was never short of men I fancied. Seems to be all about dating websites and ‘finding your perfect match’ these days. I feel like younger people massively overthink, rather than follow their instincts and (if I’m honest) sex drive as we did in my day...