How do carers cope - Feel I am on my knees practically

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DP is pretty ill, will get better. But for the last 2 weeks I have been caring for him. He is in a lot of pain, which is very distressing to hear. But I feel on my knees with tiredness. Up all day looking after him, liaising with GP, going to pharmacy almost daily for some new medication, and trying to keep the house okay. Also up a lot of the night. Last night was better, but the night before I was literally only in bed for 3 hours.
How the hell do people cope if this is their life?

It not easy but you just find it in you to keep going. Ive nursed my dp through cancer twice, kidney failure and sepsis. It is exhausting but i just try to focus on getting him through. Unfortunately as the closest person they may also take their frustrations out on you and hoesstly they dont mean it and you have to just let them rant and not take anything personally.

You might find some local carer groups that could help out or speak to gp about getting a carer in for a while to allow you some time off.

Im not really sure how i cope, it isnt easy, i just kind of get my head down and get on with it

Yeah sorry, I guess all you can do is get on with it. DP is pretty much bed bound at the moment.

Sending you a huge hug. My DP who was terminally ill died earlier this year. I got very tired caring for him. Do you have district nurses or carers who could help?

I have to be honest and say I don't cope. My mum requires 24hr care, plus I work full time ("she has paid carers at home whilst I am at work). I am exhausted, have no life ("early 30s), the house is a tip. She is moving to be with my sister at the end of the year, and I will be moving to my own house. With everything that has happened to me (lost my beloved dad earlier this year too) I often go bed wishing I won't wake up.
For a lot of people this won't be their experience (don't want to scare people who are starting out), but I have done this since I was 11 and it has destroyed me body and soul.

So sorry to hear about other people's experiences.
No I have no one else to help at all, it is just me. But it is temporary.

I'm glad for both you and your DP that this is temporary OP. I wish you both all the best and hope you don't wear yourself out too badly in the meantime

Thanks buffalo. And hope things get better for you too. It sounds like you have had a very hard life so far.