My husband has depression (not clinically diagnosed). I think it's been building for a while triggered by a couple of stressful events, and we have a six month old baby. The last week or so has been especially hard.
He doesn't want to see a dr for work related reasons and won't even see a private counsellor under a fake name (I'm happy to pay.). He puts on a front at work but at home it's like living with a different person.
I feel so helpless as all I want is for him and our DC to be happy. I also struggle not to get upset/react when he snaps at me as baby not a great sleeper and I'm up with her most of the night some nights and am pretty tired although on the whole feel like I'm coping well. Then I feel guilty for getting upset myself. He sleeps in a spare room and I don't think that helps our relationship but I also think he needs to sleep for work and also being woken up would make everything worse.
What can I do, if anything? I've got lots of ideas but he feels like I'm nagging if I say anything. We're in silence in the car now and everything I say is wrong. Until recently I felt we had a really happy relationship.