Would you invite your SiL to be on your hen do?

[MrsWembley]

If you've known her for the best part of 20 years, always got along but never been particularly close?

Yes, I would. I like my SIL but don't know her as well as I'd like to. It would be a chance to get to know her.

Yes I would!
Have you not been invited?

Yes I did

I did. Not close but invited her and she came. She was also a bridesmaid.

Yes I did. We aren’t close but she was really touched to be invited. I invited my MIL as well.

Yes love my sister in laws. One came the other didn't as wasn't her thing

I did, had known her about 3 years by then.
She didn't come but I never expected her too because she's not interested in us at all

Are you the inviter or invitee?

Probably. My SILs both live on different continents though.

I was chief bridesmaid for both of my sister in laws to be so was obviously on their hen dos, and they would be my bridesmaids if we get married , so yes. But - they're probably also my best friends as well anyway, independently of marrying my brothers.

I would unless my partner wasn’t in contact for whatever reason or I really really hated her!

Yes without question. Although hypothetical as my dh is an only child. I did go to my SIL hen do though

Yes of course I would. Have you not been invited?

Yes, and I'd also be quite sad and shocked if i wasn't invited to my SIL's hen do (both my DBs wife and DH's sisters)

I would, but it would depend on the hen do and if she knew other people going. Yes if it’s a night out, no if it’s a weekend with a close-knit group of friends.

It didn’t even occur to me to invite my SIL to my hen do. DH isn’t close to her, and neither am I. I make an effort at family gatherings and have in the past suggested to DH that he includes her in various things. But I didn’t invite her - my hen do was for people I’m close to (my best friends and my sister) and that didn’t include her. If I’d invited lots of family I probably would have considered inviting her.

Well, it turned out she was mortally offended not to be invited but she didn’t say anything to me or DH, she just bitched about. She also created a big fuss/drama before the wedding, about flowers (of all things) because she was best woman - actually my suggestion although dh’s Decision obviously! - but she declared that she should be and in fact was a bridesmaid.

Since then her behaviour has gone from bad to worse sadly. It kind of confirms that I was right not to invite her!

Yes...all 3 of mine and my MIL

Not if I wasn’t close to her, no.

Yes of course! If we weren't close I would let her know there was no obligation to come, but I would extend the invite.

No, we've never hung out independently of her brother (my husband).
I didn't get an invite to hers, she didn't get an invite to mine.

Nope. We don't get on, and she would have had a face like throughout the whole thing.

Yep, my brother's partners, dh's sister, my mum and mil.

Yes if I'd had one.
I invited MIL but thankfully she declined - would have been super awkward!

Personally, I would! But I think it depends what you want out of your hen do and what you're expecting. For e.g. i had an afternoon-tea and party games with more reserved family members, distant relatives/friends, children - it was such a fun day. But then I also had a musical night out with my friends which included karaoke and a lot of shots - it was such a fun night! And that one was more for my close friends, sisters etc although both my mil, aunt, and mum came too. And my sil came to both.

If we weren't close (never socialised together alone or outside family) and she didn't know my friendship group, probably not.

I had 2 ... a mad close friends only, and a family plus friends closer to to the wedding - more of a dinner and onto a club for those that wanted.