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Has anyone gone on to marry their "lightning bolt"?

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LightningB · 17/08/2018 17:20

I've met a couple of men over the years where I've experienced what I can only describe as like lightning... You feel a strange mix of nervous excitement around them, butterflies, the atmosphere sizzles. They're constantly in your head, drawn to them like a magnet, day dream about them etc. This current one I have actually dreamed about!

It's strange because in both my experiences they've never been what I've found typically attractive looks wise in a man, but in both cases it's been the way they talk, their voice, even the way they walk and facial expressions. Neither time has anything ever come of it, and this latest one I work with (not closely but same office and we don't really have a reason to speak about much, never had any nights out together etc) so I doubt anything would ever come of it- although I do know he's divorced and single.

My most recent and longest term partner, we had a great relationship but there was never that instant spark, it was more that we got on really well, were attracted to each other and kind of grew to care for each other. This other man makes me genuinely weak at the knees, I've caught him looking up when I enter the room and often wonder if he feels even a tiny bit the same!

So my question... has anyone ever felt this unexplainable overpowering attraction to someone, and if so, did you pursue it and was it anything like you imagined it to be? Did you go the distance?

I hear many people say that it was never like this with the one they ended up with- it was tamer, calmer, steady.. and I wonder if it ever works with the lightning bolt?

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Dinosauratemydaffodils · 17/08/2018 18:45

My dh proposed the first time he kissed me.

You feel a strange mix of nervous excitement around them, butterflies, the atmosphere sizzles. They're constantly in your head, drawn to them like a magnet, day dream about them etc.

That's how he described it, he just knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. This December we will have been a couple for 19 years and we have 2 dc.

Twinkie1 · 17/08/2018 18:54

Been together 16 years, married 12 years. I still get all giddy when I hear his key in the door 😊

Birdinthetree · 17/08/2018 18:56

I married my lightening bolt - very soon after we met. He is the most wonderful man we have been together now for 19 years - so you could say we have gone the distance!

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Oblomov18 · 17/08/2018 19:06

Disagree. I married mine. 20 years later.... best decision I ever made.
I nearly didn't go to meet him. I thought he sounded 'odd' on the phone. As soon as I met him......

JellySlice · 17/08/2018 20:16

God you're gorgeous and you're mine".

Ohhhh yesss GrinGrin

waterandlemonjuice · 17/08/2018 20:23

My friend has. It was love at first sight and they've been together for 20 years now. Very happy afaik

UnderHerEye · 17/08/2018 20:36

Yep my DH was a lightning-bolt- i spotted him in a pub and spent the whole evening trying to figure out a way to approach him, I was at the bar laughing about it with my pal as we were having our last drink when he wandered over and said I’ve been trying to catch your eye all night!

10 years on and I love him more than ever, he is kind and funny and brave and the best person in the world.

SauvignonBlah · 17/08/2018 20:43

I married mine. Not my usual looks wise and a dour Scot not a super charmer or anything and definitely not an abuser at all. We've been together for 6 years and have a 2 year old son.

DiabolicalMess · 17/08/2018 20:53

Yep. I knew he was the one when I first set eyes on him. Been together 16 years, married for 11, 2 beautiful boys.

He's the most gentle, patient and kind man I've ever met in my life, and a very hands on dad. Never so much as shouted at me in 16 years let alone laid a hand on me or either of the kids.

ThroughHell · 17/08/2018 20:55

You are all so, so lucky

DiabolicalMess · 17/08/2018 20:58

Indeed, I completely agree I'm very lucky and I never take it for granted.

Rednaxela · 17/08/2018 21:02

Yes. The moment I set eyes on him is burned into my mind! I was in a really bad place and not looking for a relationship at the time and so he had to pursue me. Insistently but gently. Not an abuser! The chemistry was immediate. 5 years later married with 1 DC. He talked of having babies with me on the 5th date!! Daft and I told him so. It has not been a smooth road by any means. There are days where I think what on earth am I doing married to this person! But on the good days it's the best feeling in the world, to feel totally relaxed and accepted for who I am. He knows me better than I know myself somehow. I can't explain it. Blazing rows aside!

LeeValley2 · 17/08/2018 21:02

Yes, it was love at first sight, absolutely electric. Married him. Best thing I’ve ever done. We don’t argue and he is absolutely amazing. Been together for years.

Rednaxela · 17/08/2018 21:03

Should add he is nothing like the man I thought I would marry. Not my "type" and not even a sensible choice. Totally fated.

Verbena87 · 17/08/2018 21:03

Dunno if he’s a traditional lightening bolt - we met and I just felt really easy in his company, like coming home, but assumed we’d be friends and left it at that.

Few months on I realised all at once that I was irreversibly in love with him and hadn’t noticed it happening, had no idea if he remotely fancied me, and no idea how to un-fall in love with him.

Next time we saw each other we kissed and that was it. Got into bed that night and accidentally said “so when we’re married” - wanted to die but he just laughed. Together 10 years, married 4, I still think he’s the best man I’ve met.

Jasharps · 17/08/2018 21:17

I did!

It was love at first sight. Lightening Bolt City SmileWe've been together 12 years, 4 kids and I still have that feeling. He is very kind and not abusive in the slightest. He's my zing!

QueenOlives · 17/08/2018 22:52

Yes.

Was EA covert narcissism at its best and it took me years to work out it, and more time to leave.

I will never fall for that love bombing shite again.

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