This keeps coming up again and again but he still won't learn.
DP lived with his mum all his life and she did everything for him. He was incredibly sheltered about many practical everyday things.
His mum has OCD so he never got the opportunity to learn to do things for himself even if he wanted to (though I suspect he never wanted to). We've lived together full time for 15 months but been together for 4 years.
He rarely ever does anything around the house unless prompted. He works from home part time so here all the time. He does do the dishes and make a cup of tea.
I'm a mum of 2 and we are trying for our own dc. They have more initiative than dp and it really worries me. I've shown him how to do things around the house but the problem is lack of initiative.
At this moment in time I'm laid up in bed with cramps. The children have fed themselves and even made a smoothie and enough extra for me. They enquired if I was hungry but dp didn't.
I don't get it. DP is kind, loving, gentle and intelligent, but I fear unless I cooked and cleaned, we'd live in a hovel with no food in the fridge.
It makes me question having a baby which is a horrible, horrible thought because we both really want one, but I doubt he could look after us properly. Or at the very least I'd be having to manage him, thereby being stressed out because I wouldn't be able to focus on the baby and myself.
How else can I get him to be more active and take on the mental workload and workload of the home?