so what should we do ?

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Dh told me tonight about a young guy who was waiting outside his work for an opportunity to talk to the boss. He is homeless and living in a tent. Dh said he was clean and tidy etc didnt look homeless.
The kid can stay with his girlfriend on weekends but not through the week.
I have a extra room . I live an an extremely desirable and expansive towns, Having a mailing adders here will help hugely

I am the mother of sons, who no longer live at home ( though I have 2 DDs who do ) I believe in giving young guys a chance, it can be BRUTAL over here if things dont follow the "norn". Ive taken in a couple of kids who have gone on to do well in life,
This guy is a stranger to us, the others I have taken in are mates of my sons,
Basically should I offer him a place to stay, (I would need a couple hundred a month to keep him). I was thinking about offering him a showers and laundry place to start with and an emergency stopping off point,
Im worried about my Dds but having dealt with young men in the past I dont want to discount helping him, just cos i dont know him or his family

Before you offer him a room in your house shouldn't you meet him and talk to him to see what he is like and what help he is looking for

I think there is currently an epidemic of male violence, including sexual violence towards females. For this reason I would be very concerned about letting an unknown male into my home with my dds.

I think it's great that you want to help, but that shouldn't be at the expense of your dds safety.

On the other hand. A relative of mine took a young man in when he was in his late teens and had nowhere to go. She helped him turn his life around and sees him as her son. This was around 25years ago though, so not entirely relevant today.

I would proceed with caution. Unfortunately statistics show what a threat men can be to women, and you and your dds need a safe home. Also, what do your dds think?

Offering the use of your bathroom and washing machine would be very kind and help him a lot with something that could make a big difference to him. You could let him use your computer occasionally as well if you wanted to do more. I’d be wary of letting him use your address in case there were any issues later with tax or benefits.

I wouldn't want a stranger in my family home. Even less so if I was a teenage girl. (am assuming they're about that age)

I wouldn't do it. There is help and there are hostels young people can use. How do you know if he's got a couple of hundred a month spare? Maybe he has an addiction?

I might do this now, (but probably not) but never in a million years with teenage DC. Give him details of local hostels/charities etc.

I agree with pp about offering him a shower, place to do laundry, use of computer and wifi and a hot meal. I wouldn't let him stay without knowing more about him.

You are lovely though to be thinking of doing this.

Absolutely not. Do not take on the responsibility. The guy is in a relationship, let them sort it out.