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I said something inappropriate, not sure what to do now

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BlingLoving · 14/08/2018 16:11

Dh and I have been going to the same male physio, off and on, for years. I have been meaning to make an appointment for weeks, but had been putting it off until eventually my discomfort was so bad I finally went to see him yesterday. As I was leaving home for work, I told DH that I'd be home after I'd spent an hour getting super relaxed with another man's hands on me. He laughed and told me to say hi to the physio for him. I laughed. All fine.

But then I told the physio the story ie that when I left home I told Dh I'd be spending an hour with another mans hands on me and he said to say hi. I did not mean it to be inappropriate as we all know each other. But when I told DH he pointed out that if it was a female physio and he had said that to her, it might have made her feel very uncomfortable. When I said that our physio laughed, he reminded me of the many many times I've told him that often women have to laugh and put up with inappropriate comments because there's no option not to in a work situation.

Physio and I had perfectly normal chat afterwards, but still....

So now I'm mortified. He was absolutely right. The physio is NOT a friend. we are clients, so he probably doesn't get to tell me to shut up as a friend would. I feel terrible. And I'm not sure what to do . I have a follow up appointment in a week and I feel like I need to apologise. But I don't know what's best. Should I send him a message in advance so that it's out of the way? Say something when I see him? Pretend the whole thing never happened and just act with absolute appropriateness in all future conversations?

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MargotLovedTom1 · 14/08/2018 16:13

The last one.

gandalf456 · 14/08/2018 16:14

Id just forget about it. It sounds as if he took it the way you'd intended. If you make a thing of it, you will cause embarrassment

Bluntness100 · 14/08/2018 16:18

Agree the last one. Just forget about it now.

haverhill · 14/08/2018 16:21

I wouldn’t give in another thought. It reflects well on you and your DH that you discussed it, though.

ltk · 14/08/2018 16:25

Numerous male colleagues have made sexualised jokes to me over the years. The vast majority were just funny, no harm meant and no offence taken. So, yeah, don't do it again and great that you've realised this - and of course apologise if he seems uncomfortable next time - but honestly not every joke about sex is harassment!

BlancheM · 14/08/2018 16:28

It's got to be the last one.

BlingLoving · 15/08/2018 11:03

Thanks all. A small sample, but complete agreement so that's what I'm going with. And a note to self to think a bit more carefully!!!

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