No response to party....should I be worried?

[Crankins]

Well, in fact, I am worried!

I sent out 14 party invites on 23rd July for my DD's 5th birthday party. All to school friends for party at local leisure centre on 25th August.

I put my name and mobile number under the RSVP section on the invite but didn't put a date to RSVP by.....in hindsight I wish I had.

I've had 3 responses (1 of which can't come) but nothing else.... I'm thinking putting an RSVP date might have helped but worried that only 2 will show up.

What would you do? I don't want to cancel leisure centre booking in case people just show up but worried my DD will be upset if her friends don't turn up!

Do you have everyone's number? Text them to confirm? Or send a reminder text?

Find as many of them as you can, previous texts between you if you RSVP d once to them? On social media and ask again.

If you can invite a few more kids.

Yes worry.

So many people away busy etc.

Without a doubt try and ask each one if they can make it.

No, OH does school runs and I don't know the other parent's so don't have numbers. We were new to area so didn't know anyone from nursery or pre-school.

Sadly i find this happens alot with parties in school holidays.

its awful

We once had 6 out of 22 turn up and most of the others never replied

Text those who have responded and ask whether they have contact details for any of the others or can pass a message on for you. Summer party invitations often get forgotten but hopefully a bit of chasing will summon up at least a few more positive responses.

Did the invites go direct to the parents? I’m just wondering whether some may be lying in a disused school drawer? This has happened with us before where my ds has helpfully filed invites in his drawer.

Presuming this isn’t the case, unfortunately some people are flaky/downright rude when it comes to rsvps.

Ok, you need to get proactive now. These parents somehow need to be contacted. Does your child’s year group have a Facebook/WhatsApp group? If so, firstly post on there. My first post would be “To anyone who hasn’t replied to Emily’s party invite, could we please know if you will be attending, as we need to confirm numbers” just a light reminder which will hopefully nudge them into replying. After a few days if there isn’t a response, I’d put another message with the children in questions names.

Failing this, as a pp said, you will need to look through your contacts and text anyone you have a number for or go through fb/insta basically any social media that you can find the parent on.

It’s a pain that you have to chase people, it’s actually put me off inviting certain children to our parties over the years which is sad. And you are right, always put a date to rsvp by, I’ve found this to help slightly, although you always get ‘those parents’ who think a reply is beneath them.

I’m so sorry you are having this stress op, I’ve been there and it’s a headache. I hope your dd has a brilliant party however many children come. You can always invite a few extra now to make up for the ones who you know can’t attend as well.

Come back and let us know how you get on

Thanks for all your replies! I've contacted those who have rsvp'd to ask it they have details for any of the other parents. Failing that I'll do a bit of FB stalking!

There's a few children on our street area who may come, I can always invite them too.