Would this bother you?

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Just looking to gauge opinion - we’re on holiday in southern France. Me, DH, DS 14 and DD 12. We’re in a single gite that’s recently been taken over by a couple, call them Bill and Bob, and they also own the B&B next door which has 5 rooms. As it’s their first season, at the moment all the B&B guests are their mates. The pool is for use by gite and B&B guests. I am the only adult female here which feels rather odd. All the B&B rooms are occupied so it’s our family of 4 and then 12 men, including the owners. I don’t feel worried it just feels unusual and I’m wondering if others would feel similar?

TBH I wouldn't be keen on that ratio.

I wouldn't like it personally :(

It would bother me if they were noisy or behaving badly especially in front of dc, other than that, I’d not be bothered.

I guess it's unusual in as much as on average you'd expect more of a m/f mix in any given public place. Although if it's two men running it, and the first guests are all their friends, then perhaps not wildly unusual that there's more men than women.

But more than the maths, what would worry you? Are you expecting to have to socialise with the wider group, or share public facilities?

Personally, I'd like a mix of male & female company if I'm expecting to socialise with folk I don't know, just for the sake of interest. But equally I can't guarantee it.

Thanks for replies. It’s more a quizzical feeling - law of averages would suggest there’d normally be more of a mix. Perfectly pleasant and undoubtedly look better than me at the pool .

It depends on their behaviour. Quietly swimming around would be fine. More boisterous, party like behaviour would piss me off.

No boisterous behaviour at all, no, just strange for me to be the only adult female. Hopefully they don’t find us too boisterous . Will be interesting to see how they market the place in the future. I can think of a couple of families in our wider social circle who would feel uncomfortable in the current setup. Although presumably mates rates won’t keep the business going for very long!

Are you sure you’re not at a men’s only holiday retreat? Quick don a moustache and a tie

• tie

• leatherboy outfit

Definitely sure!
Will chalk it up to experience I think

If it’s a small place and the owners male friends are out, I don’t find that strange.

But then I work in a male dominated environment and am frequently the only female at the table, and I also am engaged in quite a male dominated hobby.

Last year on the annual hobby trip I was the only female out of 16 people, and the year before there were two of us.

I also do other, female dominated things!

I'd be uncomfortable but I don't think there's much you can do tbh

Enjoy the view??

When you refer to bill and Bob, would it be right to assume they are a same sex couple? So possibly they have 5 couples staying rather than a stag party? I wouldn't like a big group of men but 5 couples is just normal holiday.

I'd be disappointed as it would make me feel ever so slightly uncomfortable. Not enough to Do anything about it though. Do you think your husband would feel the same if it were all women?

Just say you identify as a man and get stuck in

It would make me feel awkward, yes.