I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I have two boys 4 and 5. He has a 7 year old son. When we don’t have the kids we pretty much live together. My kids have slept in their own rooms since three weeks I always felt it was safer and they’ve just always been used to that. He sleeps with his son. His son has his own room at his house but he puts him to sleep in his room. When his son is at his moms house he sleeps alone. We went on one vacation and I had to sleep with my kids and him with his. We had to get a bigger more expensive room to have these apartment style accommodations. The times I’ve had to get my kids extra time he’s able to come
over to spend time afternoon they fall asleep and even slept over the other day. I can’t do that when he has his extra time because he sleeps with his son. We do spend time together everyone as a family but never sleep in the same house except that one vacation. I’m tired of the situation. I want to have the relationship 100% of the time. I was married for 9 years and want to be able to share my bed and time with my significant other. Is it wrong that I want more. We get along great, he talks about the future together, and my kids love him. I’ve brought up the fact that if that doesn’t change we can’t live together and he says he wants to sleep with him. And he thinks I’m crazy if we would live together and he’d sleep with his son, but if it’s not addressed now if we move in together and he tries to change it the kid will resent me.