Are bonuses included as gross pay or in maintenance arrangements?

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I've been separated for 3 years and still on my own with our three children. They live with me all the time with visits 2/3 a month to their dad's (or he comes here for the day).
When I take them there I have to stay for the night and usually buy food ect (as he doesn't really bother to shop for food before we go).
H earns around 77k a year but also gets a 20,000 bonus.
Recently, he sold a house he rented out (he still lives in the family home and we rent somewhere a couple of hours away) from which I got the rent £600 into my account as part of my 'house keeping money'. This continued while we were separated until he sold the house in January.
(This is a sore point as he promised to give us the proceeds to help us get a home for ourselves but then changed his mind last minute leaving us with nothing.)
Then obviously the payments stopped. He pays £550 into my account from his each month (also since before we separated).
However he did give me £8000 when he got his bonus as a one off payment which I have put into savings. (now this will go on rent for the next year)
According to the calculator I should be getting about £880 a month on his gross salary of £77k but wondered if his bonuses would be calculated on top of this or not.

I have not 'asked' for anything from him until now. I have never asked for more money or any help even though I am only on £13 K a year myself and renting a place with the children while he has the house to himself. But promising us something for 6 months and I applying for a mortgage to try and get us a house and then having to pull out was the last straw.

I am looking to divorce very soon but wondered in the meantime about the maintenance payments. (not that i will ask for it but just out of interest).

I am not trying to be greedy. I am far from it. All I dreamed for was a small place to call our own and I would have wanted to close down any further payments.

I've just recalculated and see his gross now as 90K

First of all I believe you are entitled to 50% of all joint assets (that’s the starting point)

Secondly you are probably entitled to a lot more in child maintenance - this is seperate to any divorce settlement. Check out www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance

Finally - get yourself to a lawyer with all the financial information you can gather.

Do NOT tell him you are doing any of this. It’s none of his business. Keep your powder dry until you are ready.

Please go.to see a solicitor. I assume he has a pension too which will form part of the assets too!

Thank you Feck. I am starting to contact and have not told him.
We never shared bank accounts (I was a SAHM most of the time with 3 little ones) and he kept all finances to himself.
However when he was selling the house recently he added some documents to dropbox and shared it. These include bank statements. I'm trying to save them without him knowing if it's possible?!
I'm worried he might delete it or something.

Resevoir, yes he has a pension.
He told me he put the proceeds of the house into a savings account so that he can start a business though and try and leave his work. That is why I'm worried what he will do with it now. I'm sure he has all intentions of starting a business (his life is his work!) but not sure how the money will be dissolved and if he is doing it to spite me/getting nervous himself.

As said he is still in family home which is in London and bought for 250,000 in 2012 so I expect that will have increased a fair bit.

If he is on PAYE then yes bonuses are included in salary (& taxed accordingly) unless he is a director & it’s a dividend he’s drawing (but I’ve had to include my dividends in forms for student funding so I’d assume it was the same for child support.

I’ve also had to fill in forms for child support in my job in payroll. I had to send copies of the last 3 months payslips & the end of year P60. They also phoned me to query some stuff. There was a questionnaire which asked about bonuses.

Thanks Alexander.

You need to see a solicitor very sharply. Make an appointment tomorrow am. He's shafting you and your children. Be their advocate.

On to it Ourkid. Do I need one locally or not?