What meal can I transport to PIL so we don’t starve??

[yorkshireyummymummy]

In light of the recent thread about people visiting in laws and not getting fed enough to feed a mouse I started to get the willies.

WE are visiting PIL this weekend for 5 days.
MIL used to be a lovely cook but doesn’t bother anymore andserves small portions ofstrange food.

We are travelling from Yorkshire to Hampshire on Friday and I want to take that nights dinner with me. It will take about 6 hrs to get there and it will have to be something I can transport in a cool bag with those frozen freezer packs. It can be transported in Tupperware or sealable bags.

Any suggestions from you lovely clever mums/women??

Don’t let us starve!!! Especially my poor FIL who is always hungry!!

Going forward, maybe it would be possible to arrange for someone to come in and cook them a decent meal at lunchtime, and also leave them sandwiches for tea?

You know, when my mum was 95 I cooked for her. She could actually cook-but she had limited energy. Cooking for herself meant she couldn't do anything else. And you know what? I would much rather she has a little potter in the garden, or something and ate food I had provided for her.

At that age I think i’ll just live on nice ready meals from COOK or M&S, Waitrose and alcohol. Can’t they just a regular delivery of these types o& meals and keep them in the freezer. FIL can just learn to use the microwave

Ah just seen his age, ignore me

Right.
1)I only asked for some food ideas.
2)I wasn’t ‘ snarky’about my MIL. Nowhere have I done that.
I didn’t ‘drip’. My FIL age is utterly irrelevant in the OP. Since when was it obligatory to put everybody’s age into the OP.? I only asked for food ideas, not long term care plans.
3)Thank you to those of you who gave food ideas, and those who suggested different ways of helping ( food deliveries, ready meals etc). 4)They don’t need any help. They have a son and daughter who Iive close by and help them. FIL gets amply fed by them.
5) They have a cleaner and a gardener. MIL has a very full life and is a social butterfly. She has food issues (has done for a lot of years ) and doesn’t want to cook anymore. Her choice.
6) I and nobody else has any intention of trying to teach a 95 year old man how to cook. It’s patronising and bloody cruel trying to satisfy 21st century ideas of ‘ sharing all the housework/cooking’ on him.
7) I baked a cake today, made a curry , a sausage casserole, a coq au vin and some pasta sauce to take down to their freezer. 8nspiration taken from many posts.
Thank you!

I now bow out and will let the really crappy posters ( ‘ drip feed’ ‘snarky comments’ ) make so much more of this thread than is necessary. I only asked for some food ideas for some inspiration FFS,!!

home made Corned beef pie i always take one on our yearly caravan visit for the first night we get there put some chips with it and gravy fils you right up

“Really crappy” I don’t think I’m really crappy?!
Your OP says MIL used to be great at cooking but doesn’t bother.
You then mention that she had guts and jewels and knew the deal she was she “had to look good, cook his meals, run the house, and look after him in his old age.”
She clearly can’t anymore, and to me it read that you felt that she was letting him down.
Maybe not what you meant.

Guts?! not envy
Furs!!

Once I've got there I'd do a massive cook of various meals like shepherds pie, fish pies etc then portion up into individual takeaway trays for the freezer. All your pils would have to do is heat up and add veg and gravy etc.

For you to eat while your there all the suggested meal options seem sensible. Going forward, I'd look into setting up regular meals on wheels deliveries. Lots of companies around like Wiltshire farms & cook do similar.

www.wiltshirefarmfoods.com

thecrowfrombelow

WHERE have I said MIL is not capable of looking after FIL??
She is more than capable, she just doesn’t want to cook anymore! No big deal, not being ‘snarky’ blah blah. She has just decided she doesn’t want to cook dinners from scratch anymore. Her choice and nobody in the family is castigating her because of it.
He wants to,potter round the garden or do a little diy job- not learn to cook. And why shouldn’t he?
In the same way, why shouldn’t she do the things SHE wants to - church, book club, WI flower arranging , walking with friends, coffee/lunch/gin with friends. She wants to use her energy enjoying her life, not cooking . Simple.
All I wanted was a few meal ideas - mainly because I get sick of trying t9 think what to do for my own family week in/week out.
I certainly didn’t want to be pulled up by a stranger for being ‘snarky’. If I wanted that i would have posted in AIBU.

And yes, I do think you are really crappy when I made it quite clear I just wanted food suggestions and I REALLY didn’t want to have to go into details about MIL and FIL as it has fuck all to do with anybody as I JUST WANTED SUGGESTIONS FOR FOOD.
WHY do some posters try to make things so much more than they are???

Pulled pork is always lovely
Banana cake freezes really well
By the take away tubs and freeze cottage pie or spaghetti bolognaise
Get some of those healthy snack /breakfast bars.
Plenty of fun!