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What should I do...(trigger warning) really need advice please.

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newnamechange1234 · 09/08/2018 20:51

I have just this evening found out that one of my neighbours is (fairly sure it is him) on the sex offenders register for having indecent images of children. I’m unsure as to whether to tell my other neighbours (assuming they don’t already know) as they all have kids, as do I.

My husband thinks I shouldn’t go stirring things/gossiping, as I’m only 99.9% sure, and not 100%, and if I’m wrong then I could be accusing someone of something horrendous. He thinks the neighbours are likely to find out for themselves, but I only found out by accident, stumbled across it online, so the chances of them finding out on their own accord are slim.

But my argument is, the other neighbours have a right to know now.

What should I do? Please, any advice is welcome. Thank you.

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GreenMeerkat · 09/08/2018 20:52

What is the 0.1% that makes you unsure?

How did you find out?

GlassSuppers · 09/08/2018 20:53

If you saw it on line could you tag them in it and ask if they think it's him?

I'd definitely want to know if I was your neighbour. And if something awful happened and I found out someone knew and didn't say then I'd be upset.

It's not gossiping if you're protecting someone's kids IMO

Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 09/08/2018 20:54

You need to be 100% sure before you decide anything at all.

gallicgirl · 09/08/2018 20:56

Is this something the police can advise you on?

I'd be wary of sharing because you don't know how other people will react. I'd hate to be responsible for a self-styled vigilante attack based on a rumour.

ADastardlyThing · 09/08/2018 20:59

What makes you think it's him?

newnamechange1234 · 09/08/2018 21:06

I don’t want to give too many more details away, except to say there was some reliable information online (not gossip) and that all the details bar one are the exact same, but this detail can very easily be explained and matches to him also.

I can maybe go into the police station and ask, and see if they will tell me.

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