I hate when my mom drinks

[veritasstewart]

When my mom drinks I get very angry. She doesn't drink that often, though. She only drinks on holiday or a wedding or something like that. When she does I get furious. I could start screaming at the top of my lungs when she does. I desperately need advice and I must know if anyone relates. I am only 12 years old and I hate dealing with this. Please remember that she only rarely drinks, probably once every 3 months or something.

Why do you get angry? Isn’t she entitled to have a drink now and again?

That's the thing I don't know why I get angry

Well I think you need to chill out, unless she is drinking so much it affects your life or her health, you really don’t get a say. Mums are entitled to let loose and have a bit of fun. Have you mentioned it to your mother?

Are you in the UK? Is it just a recent thing that you've noticed her drinking and is it just recently you're angry?

Thanks for the advice but it's not that easy

Your mum is a separate person from you and she is entitled to a treat now and then. You get treats too, right?

12 you say?

Is it that she changes into a different person when she drinks?

Do you feel that maybe her focus isn't on you or the family if she is having a drink? I rarely drink as I am a lone parent and I feel as if I always need to be there for my children. So when I do have an odd glass of wine, about every three months or on big social occasions, like your mum, it is a sign that I am relaxing and having a bit of time without as much responsibility.

I only do this if I know there are other people around to drive anyone someehere in an emergency. If your mum is like this, you might think she has switched off from you a little because she is drinking and socialising with other people, but she may just be taking a little time out from the normal routine and still be looking out for you as well.

Is your user name your actual name? If it is, I think Mumsnet can change it for anonymity.