Don't know how to handle this

[happybunnymummy]

Hello.
My dd came home from school and told me another boy had touched her privates. She then disclosed that he had put a toy inside her "foof" and it hurt. She had cuts there. I, of course, reported it straight away to the school and police and drs. I should add that both kids have just turned 5. The school reported it to children's services and all the right investigations have taken place, including my dd being examined at a sexual assault clinic.
Social services have decided to record it as age appropriate behaviour - despite it being red on counts of the brooks chart for what is appropriate.
The mum of the boy was a good friend of mine and apparently I should have covered it up and kept quiet as we were friends and allowed them to play together as normal - as if nothing has happened!!
She is also telling everyone locally that I have made malicious allegations of abuse and neglect that that is why social services are involved. Everyone local has turned on me and the police are logging threats as people expect to fight me and can't wait to get me.
I haven't done anything wrong and I didn't make the call to children's services and I couldn't not report what happened.

I honestly don't know what to do.

Didn't want to read and run, and have no experience of anything similar.

But what you did was absolutely the right thing to do.

If it were my DD I'd have done exactly the same. Possibly more to the other mother if she took that attitude with me.

Really hope your DD is ok

I'm so sorry your little daughter has had to experience this

Ignore the threats if you can, you and your daughter have done nothing wrong.

The mother sounds like an idiot.

You did the right thing. You had to report it to protect your daughter. The other mother is being ridiculous. All you can do is hold your head up high, tell people that your daughter was assaulted and that's why social services were involved, keep reporting the threats to the police and wait for it to blow over.