I am 39 weeks pregnant. My mum and I have never been close, to be honest I don't really like her as a person. She is very selfish. We will text occasionally now that I am pregnant but nothing more than 'hi how are you. fine thanks you'. Anyway, I am ok with this I don't need her. I have a lovely DF, DP and MIL. My problem is that she wants to be involved in my child's life.. fine, but I hate the way she is going about it. For example, she is always making snide remarks about hardly ever seeing me. She recently went on holiday and messaged my DP saying he needs to let her know if 'anything GOOD OR BAD happens' [confused]... She told my brother to let her know if I had the baby whilst she was away [hmm].. I had a baby shower organised by my SIL. My mum was coming.. then all of a sudden she wasn't coming as she was watching her DP do a sporting event for the day instead. One of my issues with her is that her life revolves around him and has since they met. she has no friends and makes no effort with family unless he is otherwise engaged. This was last week and my mum has text the normal 'hi how are you' but has mentioned nothing. I am absolutely sick of the comments she is making to others and annoyed she didn't attend my baby shower and has not even mentioned it. I could say so much more but nobody has time to read it all. I want to say something but my DP has told me not to bother as she always has an answer for everything and to focus on getting the baby out then mention it if I'm still annoyed. Trouble is I am at the end of my tether, I know that she is expecting this baby to 'bring us closer' but I just don't like her and I can't be bothered with pretending to tolerate her anymore but I wouldn't be so cruel as to cut her out completely. So I guess I am wondering what others would do in the same situation? Let it go and just keep pretending everything is fine when she wants to visit (hopefully I can limit it to once a month [grin]) or say something and hope that it can clear the air (even though she won't change and she will wind me up over something else in a few months!).